The things you seem to desire exist, you just have to go find them.
Isn't the "best of both worlds" when you can live in an old mill (first picture), go to church in a 90 year-old building (150 year-old parish, second picture), and still pop in a Target when you need a pack of toilet paper and a new bike pump at the same time?
I was referring to the square, and how the architecture defines a space, not in the architecture of the building specifically. The architecture of the building is super important, but it's basically just a prerequisite. It's making it (the building/place) work on a human scale. I was referring to the center of European communities often being public open spaces, usually accompanied by the church/Cathedral:
Such a space is practically foreign to an American. They exist, but you "just have to go find them." Great public spaces should be commonplace. My point on that matter was that our interactions are likely to be in a parking lot.
Are dense, walkable neighborhoods desirable?
There are a myriad of surveys saying they are, even from people who live smack in the middle of suburbia.
Census Reveals Hoosiers Increasingly Desire Walkable Neighborhoods | Urban Indy
Americans showing greater desire for walkability, amenities in the areas they call home
Millennials and Boomers Show Preference for Walkable, Transit-Friendly Communities | Partnership for Strong Communities
And people are putting their money where their mouth is, gentrification and growth in major downtowns and first-ring neighborhoods is booming.
We all want it all. I want a nice home, I want the convenience of my car, I want the ability to walk if I choose, I want elite schools, I want low taxes and so on. Unfortunately, most of us our held back by a G.D. budget. I hate mine but I can't shake it.
Proper planning is not expensive. Maybe I'm not understanding your point here.
We do want it all, but we aren't being given it. The scale tipped too far in one direction, so far that a car is basically required. Modern planning, having learned from the mistakes of the post-WW2 development model, seeks to build walkable communities which of course allow for the convenience of your car.
But what's the advantage of a local grocer over a grocery chain? I've never said "dang, I really wish I could get product XYZ but they just don't sell it at Publix/Stop and Shop/Price Chopper."
I don't have a problem with a chain. Is local better? I think so, if it meets your needs.
Creating (walkable) neighborhoods, defining spaces, and building on a human scale is a game of feet (whereas building on a car scale is a game of miles). The most common problem is that the parking is in front of the building, when it should be the other way around.
If a corporate grocer (or any store) can work with a community to build a unique building that works within the neighborhood, then I'm all for it. It's attention to detail. None of those cookie-cutter buildings that are ubiquitous in Suburbia.
I have three examples of grocery store planning for you.
1) The first one is one of the worst planning failures in recent Columbus history (Located at 39* 56' N 83* 00' W). A three-phase office park was planned and the first phase was completed (two office buildings and a greenspace,
built up to the sidewalk) when Kroger notified the developers that they wanted to build a Kroger in place of their second phase. This was HUGE news. It was the first grocery store to build in Columbus' downtown/first-ring neighborhoods since White Flight (because of all the gentrification going on...people desiring walkable communities). So they said "yes! yes! please! go right ahead!"
And what happened? Kroger plopped their cookie-cutter store right behind the first phase and completely destroyed the space. The Kroger is 400' off the sidewalk--more than a football field away from pedestrians. The put their parking lot in between the store and the first phase. Take a look on Google Earth, it's appalling and obvious they took about two seconds of thought on how it'd be built.
Yes, they have their grocery store, and it's packed, but the walkability opportunities weren't taken advantage of neighborhood isn't maximizing its potential.
2/3) Same location, two Krogers.
Back in the 1970s Kroger put their parking-in-the-front shithole on High Street and, of course, destroyed the walkability of the area. Study after study show that a 300' parking lot built on a street destroy it. Game over.
In ~2011 they tore down the building and instead of keeping the parking in front they moved it to the side and place the building's side on the sidewalk and overnight the neighborhood changed.
Something as simple as a layout of a grocery store is vital. A proper downtown is simple: buildings, more than one story tall, built to the sidewalk edge. Off-street parking in the rear. Throw some trees in and call it a day. Suburbia is single-story buildings with (way too much) off-street parking in the front, and it's a disaster for neighborhoods.
I will have to expand on this later but i worked 70 hours in five days so I'm going to the bar haha