Notre Dame football recruit Devin Butler may be five years younger than his brother, Darius, but he doesn’t act like it.
As a freshman at Howard University in October 2008, Darius was walking in the wrong place at the wrong time. WUSA9 reported that he was shot five times while returning home from a party late at night. He survived the shooting but was left paralyzed after three bullets entered his back.
When Darius returned home following a three-month hospital stay, Devin, who was in middle school at the time, turned into part-time caregiver. Simply put, little brother became big brother.
Devin assisted his brother with getting dressed, washing his face and brushing his teeth. He also served him meals, helped him get in and out of the car and wheeled him around to doctor appointments, restaurants, the mall, the movie theater and sometimes the local rec center, where the two would shoot basketball.
“I could always call Devin,” Darius said. “Eventually I started calling him first and my parents second.”
Devin said he’d quickly finish homework after school so he could spend time with his brother. He recalled an instance when the two were playing video games. Usually Darius asked for help when he needed to move from his bed to a chair, but one time he attempted on his own. He slipped, and the chair rolled back. Fortunately, Devin was able to catch him.
“I think it meant more to him than it did to me," Devin said. "It showed a sign of trust and that I was there for him."
Helping Darius was never a burden, and Devin said assuming a part-time caregiver role quickly transformed his conscious.
“It really opened my eyes to the needs that other people have who are not as healthy as I am,” Butler said.
Had it not been for Darius, “I wouldn’t have been so in tune to others’ suffering,” Butler said.
He took to offering a hand in the community by volunteering at The Father McKenna Center, which assists the poor and homeless in Washington, D.C. For the past three years, he has helped serve meals and spends time talking to residents living in the center.
His brother’s tragedy shaped Butler in others ways, too, along with his friends, who also knew Darius. Butler said they’ve all become more conscious of their surroundings.
“When they see a tragedy like that, it really opens their eyes,” Butler said. “It’s affected a lot of my decisions, like whether I should stay outside and hang with friends or come inside and do homework.”
Darius attended all but one of Butler’s football games. Whenever Butler would score a touchdown or make a big play, he’d immediately find his brother to give him a high five.
“All the kids had a chance to see that special relationship,” said coach Aaron Brady. “Some of our kids who were less mature or not as trustworthy, once they saw Devin’s relationship with his brother, I think it definitely changed them. The biggest thing they learned from being around Darius was that decisions you make can impact the rest of your life, your family — everything.”
Butler said after his brother’s shooting, he began to take football more seriously. The sport served as incentive to stay out of trouble, focus on school and on his future. When Butler committed to Notre Dame last April, he said his brother’s incident had partly swayed his decision because his priorities shifted at a young age.
“Before, I thought it was important to be out with friends and have fun all the time. Afterwards, I saw that family and faith are most important,” Butler said.
Reason that attracted him to Notre Dame’s program and also because of “the accountable the coaches require out of their players.”
Butler uses his learned awareness to positively impact youth. He tutors elementary school kids at Capital City Public Charter School in D.C. While his primary role includes teaching how to read, he said he feels a responsibility to encourage and be a role model.
And the advice he shares is to never take anything for granted and to always be thankful and respectful.
“Any minute your whole life can change,” Butler said. “Be happy and enjoy life for what it is because it can be fleeting.”