I don't think you understand my point. Even if a player of ours is a douchebag to the power of 10, what possible good does it do to talk trash about him on the team message board?
Number one, he's a kid. Lots of kids are douchebags, lots of kids grow out of it. Some don't. Number two, even if the Pope is the one telling you he's a jerk, it does no good for the look of the fanbase or the culture of the board to call a current player a douchebag unless his actions are either illegal (and thus actually newsworthy) or so public and damning that it cannot be ignored. (See: Baylor player tweeting about not getting to hook up with chicks because of rape allegations here.)
The point of this isn't that we shouldn't be calling him a douche because it's untrue, the point is that we shouldn't be calling him a douche because we should be better than that. That's some mgoblog type bullsh*t.
Although, on the subject of whether or not him actually being a jerk is true, I will say it's fascinating how it just so happens to coincide that every player that ends up transferring or leaving the program was "selfish" or "wasn't well liked" or is a "douche". And its amazing how the internet news fairies always happen to bring this up when any rumor of a transfer is started (or even worse, when the player is *gasp* playing below expectations).
You calling me a fairy, Clark?
About the order of events. Player B is a douche-clown. Player B acts like a douche-clown, repeatedly. Because he gets extra special treatment for being a student athlete, everyone is more discrete.
Then, just as it is getting painful, the discrete witnesses of said douche-clowniness redouble their effort at remaining tight lipped because everyone realizes in a cold sweat panic, that the douche-clown may actually leave. This is motivation because A) The kid is a future AA; or IV) the kid is one of the few players on the roster at a position of need.
So when it all becomes unbearable because of the weight of having a story demonstrating such great drama, especially for those that don't want any drama in their lives, and it is clear the kid is going to leave, wash out, or has already left, the dam busts wide open.
Kind of like it did with the wide receiver a number of years ago who was suspended from the Sun Bowl, his last game in an Irish uniform. It was like almost a year later, well after he graduated (or didn't) that it came out what a prince of a guy he was!
Or like the kid from NJ that was separated from the program a few years back. Within a month or so of a fluff piece extoling his virtue, it came out that he stole repeatedly from teammates, his fellow students, and dorm residents, and lied about it and other random stories that helped his many nefarious endeavors.
That is the way it works not because people become so black-hearted so quickly, but because they try to give the couple of these kids that have come along the benefit of the doubt. Maybe to much benefit, for too long.
And frankly, if someone shows a consistent pattern of ill adjusted behavior (particularly as the chances of them changing at the age these kids are is almost zero,) I am not overly concerned about whether his memory is raked over the coals.
It is much different if it is a one time deal, like Will Mahone. Granted Will liked to party, but the horrible thing that happened to him was a one time thing, and he has made reparations, including taking complete responsibility for his actions. That is a totally different thing. And if anyone would have treated him negatively, I would have been the first one to jump to his defense.