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So, I took the plunge. Engaged as of two weeks ago. Already faced with the common issues any couple would have (dates, venue, etc.). The central issue we are faced with now is choosing the date, as it is likely going to fall on the ND/UM game in 2014.

As a background, I went to UM and have been in Ann Arbor for about 7 years while I finish up law school. The now fiance went to UM as well, and is an absolute die-hard scUM fan. For any of you that don't know, I have remained true to my ND roots and dislike Michigan as much as the next ND fan - trust me. However, we are going to get married on campus in Ann Arbor at one of the older venues and need to pick a date. We are looking at next September.

Unfortunately, the venue we really like is only open on the Saturday during the ND/UM game next year. There will be a lot of Michigan fans and a lot of ND fans at this wedding. A lot. We would LOVE to have an early ceremony, do a sort of tailgate/cocktail hour for a 3:30 PM ND/UM game, then have our reception. The problem is, I think this will be a night game. I doubt there is any inside info on this board as to when this game might be, but I really think its going to be at night. If it is, having our reception at night during this game would probably suck. I don't know if anyone has had experience with having a wedding on a game day, but I know people will be completely distracted.

The other option is to have it at the same venue on October 18 (Michigan bye, we play Syracuse, meh). Do I say screw it and make everyone suffer (including myself), and take the chance the game will be at night? Or just do it later in October and risk ****** weather?
 
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It's not too late, man. There are many other fish in the sea!!!
 
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Haha, just kidding. Congrats.

I would advise you to wait for later in October, but that's just me.

I'm a superstitious guy, and Notre Dame winning could haunt your marriage.
 

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The other option is to have it at the same venue on October 18 (Michigan bye, we play Syracuse, meh). Do I say screw it and make everyone suffer (including myself), and take the chance the game will be at night? Or just do it later in October and risk ****** weather?

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Haha. I know, I know. When I look forward to this game, I know it's going to be at night. If we lost, the whole night would be screwed.

Not to mention her dad played football under Bo and a lot of his teammates will be there. It could get bad quick.
 

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Know this all too well. I'm walking the aisle Oct 12, which just happens to be a bye week. The key was "settling" on that date, and not revealing my real reason for wanting it.

My OCD wouldn't allow me to sit there without checking the score every .5 seconds on the phone and looking like an a-hole.

*Another thing to consider: if the reception is during a game where almost everyone there is a big fan of one of the teams (in your case ND and scUM), everyone will be huddled around the bar TV watching, making your wife agitated as hell. People just can't help themselves...
 
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Know this all too well. I'm walking the aisle Oct 12, which just happens to be a bye week. The key was "settling" on that date, and not revealing my real reason for wanting it.

My OCD wouldn't allow me to sit there without checking the score every .5 seconds on the phone and looking like an a-hole.

You are smarter than me, but also luckier. She knows all too well what I was thinking when we were told that date. I like to think that this is my wedding day and me and the guys standing in my wedding will be ok, but I don't think we will.

I'm just wondering if there is any chance this game will be at 3:30.
 

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This is the last game with scUM right? I'm guessing it will be at night and full of hoopla, but it would be funny if it was at the normal time, sending the message "just another game, toodles scUM."
 

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I was invited to a wedding, in Philadelphia, during Game 1 of the Stanley Cup Finals between the Flyers and Red Wings. Every guy except the guys in the wedding was in the hotel bar. The women were not really happy about it. So I would do your best to make it so that you set your DVR for the game and just focus on that wedding.

Just make sure the final song at the reception is the Notre Dame Victory March.
 

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Congrats.

But I wouldn't go to anyone's Saturday fall wedding unless it were a bye week. That includes my own wedding.
 

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I feel like a wedding reception full of ND and UM fans in Ann Arbor going on during the game would be AWESOME. There is no way the game wouldn't be followed. It would be a crazy party atmosphere and you guys will remember it forever. I'd do it specifically that way on purpose. And this is coming from a guy who had his faith in the almighty partially restored when ND's sched came out and found out my Oct 12 wedding is during the bye week.

Think about it - if you get married on 10/18 and ND plays that day (as they likely will), you'll miss the entire game. Doing it in Ann Arbor the same night as the game will be played in Ann Arbor virtually guarantees that you will be able to convince your bride that a TV needs to be in the reception hall somewhere.
 

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I don't know any of your friends or guests...but my concern would be a few people on either side drinking a little too much and then causing trouble when their team is losing and putting a black eye on a wonderful occasion. I would choose the bye week in October. There will be many more games but hopefully only one wedding.
 

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As a background, I went to UM and have been in Ann Arbor for about 7 years while I finish up law school. The now fiance went to UM as well, and is an absolute die-hard scUM fan.

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Congratulations and condolences on your dilemma.

Two suggestions regarding your reference to your new status. You are the fiancé; she is the fiancée. And don't use the word "now" before the words fiancée or wife. Females have a propensity to over analyze relationships without conditional words that unintentionally qualify the timeframe.

Best wishes!
 

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I feel like a wedding reception full of ND and UM fans in Ann Arbor going on during the game would be AWESOME. There is no way the game wouldn't be followed. It would be a crazy party atmosphere and you guys will remember it forever. I'd do it specifically that way on purpose. And this is coming from a guy who had his faith in the almighty partially restored when ND's sched came out and found out my Oct 12 wedding is during the bye week.

Think about it - if you get married on 10/18 and ND plays that day (as they likely will), you'll miss the entire game. Doing it in Ann Arbor the same night as the game will be played in Ann Arbor virtually guarantees that you will be able to convince your bride that a TV needs to be in the reception hall somewhere.

The 2014 game is in South Bend.
 

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Get married on a Friday!!
I just got married this past early October... 88º.. can't predict the weather.

Fall foliage nice for pictures as well.. sell it that way..
 

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NEVER GET MARRIED IN THE FALL

This, ****ing times 100.

Don't be a dick. Even if you were to do the wedding during a magical week where both your teams would have bye weeks, there will certainly be family and friends that will be missing their teams playing that day. You'll have some die hard family members that will be checking scores on their phones constantly or finding the nearest bar with a TV. So, like I said, don't be a dick. Yeah, I know it's your day, your one and only wedding, etc, etc. Go for a spring or summer wedding. Nobody likes people that schedule fall weddings on Saturdays.
 
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For some reason I thought there was some sort of rule against getting married on a Saturday during college football season. Could be wrong though.
 

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For some reason I thought there was some sort of rule against getting married on a Saturday during college football season. Could be wrong though.

It's generally considered a revocation of your man card. I've had friends that have skipped weddings for good friends because they scheduled a Saturday fall wedding.
 

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This, ****ing times 100.

Don't be a dick. Even if you were to do the wedding during a magical week where both your teams would have bye weeks, there will certainly be family and friends that will be missing their teams playing that day. You'll have some die hard family members that will be checking scores on their phones constantly or finding the nearest bar with a TV. So, like I said, don't be a dick. Yeah, I know it's your day, your one and only wedding, etc, etc. Go for a spring or summer wedding. Nobody likes people that schedule fall weddings on Saturdays.

In the northeast, this isn't a thing. Three people I know care about college football. Two are ND fans who know they can get the game anywhere, and one really only likes gambling on it. Nobody else has "a team," other than their pro football or baseball team. College football is something the south does - basically like car racing only more recognizable.
 

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So, I took the plunge. Engaged as of two weeks ago. Already faced with the common issues any couple would have (dates, venue, etc.). The central issue we are faced with now is choosing the date, as it is likely going to fall on the ND/UM game in 2014.

As a background, I went to UM and have been in Ann Arbor for about 7 years while I finish up law school. The now fiance went to UM as well, and is an absolute die-hard scUM fan. For any of you that don't know, I have remained true to my ND roots and dislike Michigan as much as the next ND fan - trust me. However, we are going to get married on campus in Ann Arbor at one of the older venues and need to pick a date. We are looking at next September.

Unfortunately, the venue we really like is only open on the Saturday during the ND/UM game next year. There will be a lot of Michigan fans and a lot of ND fans at this wedding. A lot. We would LOVE to have an early ceremony, do a sort of tailgate/cocktail hour for a 3:30 PM ND/UM game, then have our reception. The problem is, I think this will be a night game. I doubt there is any inside info on this board as to when this game might be, but I really think its going to be at night. If it is, having our reception at night during this game would probably suck. I don't know if anyone has had experience with having a wedding on a game day, but I know people will be completely distracted.

The other option is to have it at the same venue on October 18 (Michigan bye, we play Syracuse, meh). Do I say screw it and make everyone suffer (including myself), and take the chance the game will be at night? Or just do it later in October and risk ****** weather?
I thought this was a joke. I even wrote it in my diary. Wakeupechoes made a joke today.
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