If the only way it can be enjoyed is when "our team" wins it all
I came of age as a ND fan during 1987 when they had a pretty good season and a player that won an award called The Heisman--they actually used to have the most of these of any program.
You probably know or maybe even remember personally how those next eight or so years went from 1988 - 1996? And they weren't like last year nor the year before.
As you noted--there's a psychological component behind fandom and that's how my personal bar was "set" for enjoyment of a ND football season. A perennial top 5-10ish team that has a
legitimate chance to win a national championship every third year or so.
I think we can all agree that hasn't been the case since about circa 1996 or so. And a couple seasons here or there where we wade through a weak regular season/weak USC and then look totally unmatched in a championship caliber type matchup like 2012, 2018, or 2020 isn't being a legitimate contender in my opinion.
No other fanbase of a blueblood type program in any college sport has had to endure such a pathetic dryspell/run such as ND football from about 1993 thru current.
ND football championships and domination should have been my birthright just as it was for my father and his father before him. Before the program was totally mishandled and now has clearly been passed bye by numerous other programs over the past 30 years.
So--within the confines of a football message board and for a few hours on a few Saturdays during the year--I will continue to rage/anger cheer until the fond memories of 1987-1996 are restored for me as my birth right.
That's the pyschology behind my ND fandom. Enjoying a weak regular season and an ass whooping to end the year just doesn't cut it for me.