Wives and the Stupid **** They Say/Do

[ACamp1900]

FIFY

doesn't start with 'b' dumb-ass...

 

[gkIrish]

Fantastic advice guys. Was already thinking about a lot of that stuff but y'all basically confirmed it for me.

 

[gkIrish]

Acquire assets now and get a good prenup.

She has way more assets than I do.

 

[ACamp1900]

She has way more assets than I do.

You're the guy tho... lol.. look at your assets as Yoda would:

I had a buddy get divorced a few years ago, he went into it with almost nothing and she was pretty well off, he's still paying her...

 

[ACamp1900]

Fantastic advice guys. Was already thinking about a lot of that stuff but y'all basically confirmed it for me.

I would highly recommend my rep comment in all seriousness... never leave that stuff unsaid or for after you're already married. A true life long companion shouldn't be a death knell on their partner's passions and or enjoyments.

 

[gkIrish]

You're the guy tho... lol.. look at your assets as Yoda would:

I had a buddy get divorced a few years ago, he went into it with almost nothing and she was pretty well off, he's still paying her...

I'm an attorney and do prenups every so often. Trust me when I say it's not worth the effort for me.

I would highly recommend my rep comment in all seriousness... never leave that stuff unsaid or for after you're already married. A true life long companion shouldn't be a death knell on their partners passions and or enjoyments.

Yeah we have already talked about what life will be like. We pretty much live together already. I have way more hobbies than she does so I just don't want her to resent my "me time" after we actually tie the knot. I will need to sacrifice a lot when we have kids.

 

[ACamp1900]

I'm an attorney and do prenups every so often. Trust me when I say it's not worth the effort for me.

I don't doubt it, just saying the money going in isn't always a thing when it comes to the final outcome. My sister in law also just got divorced and the outcomes there were crazy. Full disclosure tho, I don't have anything like that either. Never thought about it in my context and I'm not worried,... my marriage is very happy.

Yeah we have already talked about what life will be like. We pretty much live together already. I have way more hobbies than she does so I just don't want her to resent my "me time" after we actually tie the knot. I will need to sacrifice a lot when we have kids.

I see this too. My wife's hobbies are watching teenie bopper horror shows from the 90s... and that's,... pretty much it. I have hobbies for days... I have found as long as you take a 'banking' approach to it you should be fine so long as she's reasonable. You deposit time and withdrawal time I guess is the best way to describe it. It also helps to find a video game or book or sport or whatever she is into that you like sharing with her... my wife loves cfb and likes baseball well enough. She watches both with me and it's great. She also likes Nazi Zombies on CoD and we play that regularly enough... my other hobbies are pretty much just mine.

 

[gkIrish]

I see this too. My wife's hobbies are watching teenie bopper horror shows from the 90s... and that's,... pretty much it. I have hobbies for days... I have found as long as you take a 'banking' approach to it you should be fine so long as she's reasonable. You deposit time and withdrawal time I guess is the best way to describe it. It also helps to find a video game or book or sport or whatever she is into that you like sharing with her... my wife loves cfb and likes baseball well enough. She watches both with me and it's great. She also likes Nazi Zombies on CoD and we play that regularly enough...

We watch certain TV shows together and do other things together all the time but I definitely have way more things I like to do that she doesn't than vice versa. I probably need to buy a Switch because she would have fun playing Mario Party or Mario Kart.

 

[Irish2155]

I don't believe in marriage as most everyone I know has at least been divorced once, and I love my $$$ too much...no thank you to tying the knot.

Must be pretty lucky though after reading through this thread. My longtime live-in girlfriend is a busy body...she cooks, cleans, laundry, makes the bed everyday, washes the dishes, does all the yard work, cleans the pool, redecorated/painted the new house...I could go on and on and on. Her kids are grown too, so don't have to fuck with that and she'll even pay for dinner every now and then. Big ND football fan as well.

The kicker however...she is by far the worst sex I've ever had...it's very pathetic. I'd much rather jerk off than even attempt to be intimate with her.

I did get a birthday BJ about a month ago that did the trick. If I could just figure out how to make everyday my birthday.....

 

[ACamp1900]

I don't believe in marriage as most everyone I know has at least been divorced once, and I love my $$$ too much...no thank you to tying the knot.

Must be pretty lucky though after reading through this thread. My longtime live-in girlfriend is a busy body...she cooks, cleans, laundry, makes the bed everyday, washes the dishes, does all the yard work, cleans the pool, redecorated/painted the new house...I could go on and on and on. Her kids are grown too, so don't have to fuck with that and she'll even pay for dinner every now and then. Big ND football fan as well.

The kicker however...she is by far the worst sex I've ever had...it's very pathetic. I'd much rather jerk off than even attempt to be intimate with her.

I did get a birthday BJ about a month ago that did the trick. If I could just figure out how to make everyday my birthday.....

LOL... not sure if this post was real or not but I laughed out loud like five different times....

 

[Irish2155]

LOL... not sure if this post was real or not but I laughed out loud like five different times....

100% factual

 

[Irish#1]

I don't believe in marriage as most everyone I know has at least been divorced once, and I love my $$$ too much...no thank you to tying the knot.

Must be pretty lucky though after reading through this thread. My longtime live-in girlfriend is a busy body...she cooks, cleans, laundry, makes the bed everyday, washes the dishes, does all the yard work, cleans the pool, redecorated/painted the new house...I could go on and on and on. Her kids are grown too, so don't have to fuck with that and she'll even pay for dinner every now and then. Big ND football fan as well.

The kicker however...she is by far the worst sex I've ever had...it's very pathetic. I'd much rather jerk off than even attempt to be intimate with her.

I did get a birthday BJ about a month ago that did the trick. If I could just figure out how to make everyday my birthday.....

IIRC we live within a few miles of each other. I may have to sneak over and kidnap her. I think I can put up with the lousy sex. lol

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I don't believe in marriage as most everyone I know has at least been divorced once, and I love my $$$ too much...no thank you to tying the knot.

Easy to say that now. High risk of dying alone though, and you can't take your $$$ with you.

Must be pretty lucky though after reading through this thread. My longtime live-in girlfriend is a busy body...she cooks, cleans, laundry, makes the bed everyday, washes the dishes, does all the yard work, cleans the pool, redecorated/painted the new house...I could go on and on and on. Her kids are grown too, so don't have to fuck with that and she'll even pay for dinner every now and then. Big ND football fan as well.

She's a concubine. Nice for you, but very little security for her. Hope for your sake she sticks around.

 

[Irish2155]

IIRC we live within a few miles of each other. I may have to sneak over and kidnap her. I think I can put up with the lousy sex. lol

LOL...I've learned to live with it. Just like many other contributors to this thread have adjusted as well.

No Mas my friend. We relocated to the South side about three years ago...the new house she completely redecorated, painted, carpeted, etc. that I was referring to.

Had to split from Wanamaker after being broken into and finding out my neighbor's son, who just got out of prison, was running a tattoo shop from their upstairs bathroom.

But, you better believe, my GF had our yard looking the best in all of Moeller Estates and added about $30k in property value which is pretty hard to do the way that neighborhood was quickly going down hill.

 

[Irish2155]

Easy to say that now. High risk of dying alone though, and you can't take your $$$ with you.



She's a concubine. Nice for you, but very little security for her. Hope for your sake she sticks around.

New word I've learned...thanks for providing the definition. From my understanding the concubine is all me as I made it very clear from the start marriage is not ever going to be in my future. We're both fine with that as she has already been through one divorce.

I don't quite follow the dying alone part though. Why can't two people spend the rest of their lives together without getting married?

 

[ulukinatme]

I don't believe in marriage as most everyone I know has at least been divorced once, and I love my $$$ too much...no thank you to tying the knot.

Must be pretty lucky though after reading through this thread. My longtime live-in girlfriend is a busy body...she cooks, cleans, laundry, makes the bed everyday, washes the dishes, does all the yard work, cleans the pool, redecorated/painted the new house...I could go on and on and on. Her kids are grown too, so don't have to fuck with that and she'll even pay for dinner every now and then. Big ND football fan as well.

The kicker however...she is by far the worst sex I've ever had...it's very pathetic. I'd much rather jerk off than even attempt to be intimate with her.

I did get a birthday BJ about a month ago that did the trick. If I could just figure out how to make everyday my birthday.....

I feel like you were bragging until you got to the bolded. Conversely my wife is like the opposite. She does some laundry, but tends to leave it in baskets and never, ever puts it away. On occasion she cooks, but we eat out a lot. She's a horrible cleaner when she does it, and the dishes are always piled up. The sex though? Pretty damn good, and keeps getting better. Makes me wonder sometimes where she's learning...

 

[NDdomer2]

So the brother in law comes in town before too long. Wife says toe today, "this will be the first time I've ever spent time with my brother."

I said can you elaborate?

She continues, "what do you mean? I've never spent time with him?"

I shake my head, and remind her they grew up together in the same house.

"Oh, yeah" she says..

 

[ACamp1900]

We should have a thread about in laws... my wife is fine (even my brother in law who married my wife's sister says my wife is the only normal one in their family), but her siblings, dead lord the shit that comes out of their mouths.....

 

[Whiskeyjack]

New word I've learned...thanks for providing the definition. From my understanding the concubine is all me as I made it very clear from the start marriage is not ever going to be in my future. We're both fine with that as she has already been through one divorce.

If she's got her own means of support, then maybe I've misread your situation. But most of the time, the woman is still at least somewhat dependent on the man's income, and acts as a wife without any of the security that marriage brings. Ends up being a pretty raw deal for her.

I don't quite follow the dying alone part though. Why can't two people spend the rest of their lives together without getting married?

Being a good spouse--year after year, through all the inevitable challenges life brings, etc.-- is hard work. And that's within the bounds of marriage, with all the security and supports it offers. Without those public vows and the legal buffers designed to support it, even fewer couples stay together for the long haul. Not formalizing things means either party can bolt whenever the arrangement "stops working" for them. And the less dependent person usually does at some point.

Keep in mind that I'm a probate attorney, so I mostly deal with people at the end of their lives. In my 10 years of practice, I can't recall a single instance where someone's unofficial "life partner" was there for them at the end.

Here's a little anecdote that might help explain my perspective. My younger brother got engaged to his undergrad girlfriend soon after graduating. She was terrible, overall and for him specifically, in a number of ways, but he still proposed because his older siblings had been happily married for several years already, and most of his other friends were popping the question too. After about 6 months full of many very uncomfortable conversations, we finally talked him out of it, and they broke off the engagement.

He rebounded by starting to date an old high school flame again. Sweet girl, great for him, my whole family loves her. But they've been "cohabitating" for 6+ years now, and my brother has no intention of marrying her. He usually throws up some bullshit excuse about how "marriage is a bourgeois institution", "why do we need to formalize things", etc. She desperately wants to be married, to have his kids, etc. But he's not willing to give her that security because he doesn't trust himself after the near miss with his undergrad gf. This arrangement is comfortable for my brother, obviously, but it's also allowing him to wallow in an extended adolescence that's bad for him. And it's really unfair for his sweet girlfriend.

Long story short: Marriage makes you a better man. Refusing to marry a woman who's basically acting like your wife is bad for your soul, and you run the risk of dying alone if you refuse to commit.

 

[Wild Bill]

I had similar doubts about marriage, and in my late 20s through my early 30s I didn't see much value in getting married. I was wrong and agree with many of the things Whiskey has said above. The one thing I would add is that having children with a good wife and mother is, in my opinion, the best thing a man can possess. You can work hard to enjoy material things, vacations, money, etc but you'll never be satisfied. When I look at my son, I know all of life's struggles haven't been in vain.

Marriage really didn't change much for me. Children changed things dramatically. I have less time to myself, work less, care about myself less and I've never been happier.

 

[Irish#1]

LOL...I've learned to live with it. Just like many other contributors to this thread have adjusted as well.

No Mas my friend. We relocated to the South side about three years ago...the new house she completely redecorated, painted, carpeted, etc. that I was referring to.

Had to split from Wanamaker after being broken into and finding out my neighbor's son, who just got out of prison, was running a tattoo shop from their upstairs bathroom.

But, you better believe, my GF had our yard looking the best in all of Moeller Estates and added about $30k in property value which is pretty hard to do the way that neighborhood was quickly going down hill.

Yeah that subdivision isn't the best. Glad I'm on the other end. Our area is still good. What area did you move to?

 

[Irish2155]

If she's got her own means of support, then maybe I've misread your situation. But most of the time, the woman is still at least somewhat dependent on the man's income, and acts as a wife without any of the security that marriage brings. Ends up being a pretty raw deal for her.



Being a good spouse--year after year, through all the inevitable challenges life brings, etc.-- is hard work. And that's within the bounds of marriage, with all the security and supports it offers. Without those public vows and the legal buffers designed to support it, even fewer couples stay together for the long haul. Not formalizing things means either party can bolt whenever the arrangement "stops working" for them. And the less dependent person usually does at some point.

Keep in mind that I'm a probate attorney, so I mostly deal with people at the end of their lives. In my 10 years of practice, I can't recall a single instance where someone's unofficial "life partner" was there for them at the end.

Here's a little anecdote that might help explain my perspective. My younger brother got engaged to his undergrad girlfriend soon after graduating. She was terrible, overall and for him specifically, in a number of ways, but he still proposed because his older siblings had been happily married for several years already, and most of his other friends were popping the question too. After about 6 months full of many very uncomfortable conversations, we finally talked him out of it, and they broke off the engagement.

He rebounded by starting to date an old high school flame again. Sweet girl, great for him, my whole family loves her. But they've been "cohabitating" for 6+ years now, and my brother has no intention of marrying her. He usually throws up some bullshit excuse about how "marriage is a bourgeois institution", "why do we need to formalize things", etc. She desperately wants to be married, to have his kids, etc. But he's not willing to give her that security because he doesn't trust himself after the near miss with his undergrad gf. This arrangement is comfortable for my brother, obviously, but it's also allowing him to wallow in an extended adolescence that's bad for him. And it's really unfair for his sweet girlfriend.

Long story short: Marriage makes you a better man. Refusing to marry a woman who's basically acting like your wife is bad for your soul, and you run the risk of dying alone if you refuse to commit.

As always Whiskey, well put and thank you for the sharing. You must have misunderstood however as she certainly doesn't rely on me for financial support. I pay the mortgage and internet/TV...she takes care of the rest of the bills along with adding value to the house, which in turn adds to my property value. We both make good money but I'm envious of her situation as she has unlimited earning potential owning her own Dental Consulting company. I, on the other hand, have to ask my boss for pay increases.

I get what your saying but don't necessarily agree. I've seen marriage make more people miserable than happy...that is just the stone cold truth. Not being married has nothing to do with a refusal to commit, absolutely nothing. We're fully committed, even though she is a turd in the sack, I won't stray and she won't either.

The one and only reason we've ever tipped toed those lines is because she needs my medical benefits being a diabetic. Kind of devalues the true meaning of marriage, especially how you describe it, in my eyes.

 

[Irish2155]

Yeah that subdivision isn't the best. Glad I'm on the other end. Our area is still good. What area did you move to?

Oh man, you're not kidding. When I moved in there were barely any houses and loved stepping out in my backyard to catch big ass catfish from the retention pond. Who would have thought I'd catch the biggest fish in my life out of Moeller Estates ponds...but it is true.

Once those houses started going up left and right, the downhill turn started. Another one of my neighbors had "BITCH" spray painted on the side of their house. Here I am thinking I got away from the East Side because of this type of shit....

To answer your question, Stop 11 and Bluff....just north of the Greenwood line.

 

[ACamp1900]

As always Whiskey, well put and thank you for the sharing. You must have misunderstood however as she certainly doesn't rely on me for financial support.

So you’re the mooch then,...


Also, Whiskey I love ya. But you made it clear some time ago you’re not a fan of me being goofy in your overly serious threads/dialogues,... stop adulting up my fun thread over here. Learn to laugh or go back to the theology thread(s)...

 

[Whiskeyjack]

As always Whiskey, well put and thank you for the sharing. You must have misunderstood however as she certainly doesn't rely on me for financial support. I pay the mortgage and internet/TV...she takes care of the rest of the bills along with adding value to the house, which in turn adds to my property value. We both make good money but I'm envious of her situation as she has unlimited earning potential owning her own Dental Consulting company. I, on the other hand, have to ask my boss for pay increases.

Apologies for the misread then. I shared the story about my brother so you'd understand why I jumped to that conclusion. Mentioning all the stuff your girlfriend does without you being married gave off a "getting the milk without buying the cow" vibe. But the equities are very different when it's a 2nd or 3rd marriage and both parties are coming to the table with their own means.

I get what your saying but don't necessarily agree. I've seen marriage make more people miserable than happy...that is just the stone cold truth. Not being married has nothing to do with a refusal to commit, absolutely nothing. We're fully committed, even though she is a turd in the sack, I won't stray and she won't either.

Marriage ain't a silver bullet, and it's harder than ever to find a good woman.

So you’re the mooch then,...

Also, Whiskey I love ya. But you made it clear some time ago you’re not a fan of me being goofy in your overly serious threads/dialogues,... stop adulting up my fun thread over here. Learn to laugh or go back to the theology thread(s)...

I'll show myself out. Back to regularly scheduled programming:

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[Irish#1]

Oh man, you're not kidding. When I moved in there were barely any houses and loved stepping out in my backyard to catch big ass catfish from the retention pond. Who would have thought I'd catch the biggest fish in my life out of Moeller Estates ponds...but it is true.

Once those houses started going up left and right, the downhill turn started. Another one of my neighbors had "BITCH" spray painted on the side of their house. Here I am thinking I got away from the East Side because of this type of shit....

To answer your question, Stop 11 and Bluff....just north of the Greenwood line.

Know the area well. The wife lived in Perry Township when we started dating.

 

[Irish#1]

I get home the other day and the wife says we need to get our bedroom cleared out as she wants to clean the carpet before the new bedroom furniture arrives. "What new bedroom furniture?" I ask. She tells me she wanted to get a new mattress (ours wasn't that old) and decided to get new furniture as well. "What's wrong with our furniture?" I asked. She tells me she just got tired of it.

We had perfectly good mission style bedroom furniture. I know my parents had the same bedroom furniture all their lives. I'm tired from moving the old furniture out of our room and taking it upstairs. That stuff was heavy.

She made it all good though. She tells me the new furniture includes delivery and set up. Woopee!

BTW.....We now have a "Purple" mattress.

 

[NDdomer2]

So my son is 8 months old now and is obsessed with trying to crawl and is constantly rolling around especially when were trying to get him to take a nap. So I say to him, "you're getting too big for your britches," and my wife responds, "those are 9 month pants."

I tell her it's a figure of speech, just blank stare of silence.

 

[ulukinatme]

So my son is 8 months old now and is obsessed with trying to crawl and is constantly rolling around especially when were trying to get him to take a nap. So I say to him, "you're getting too big for your britches," and my wife responds, "those are 9 month pants."

I tell her it's a figure of speech, just blank stare of silence.

This is what this thread was made for.

Reminds me of someone's else's wife's story. She saw a sign on a moving truck that said "Alaska to Texas." She said "Boy, that must have been a long boat ride." Her husband looked at her puzzled. "You know, cause Alaska is an island out there with Hawaii." She seriously thought Alaska was surrounded by water because US maps always have it in the corner by itself.

 

[Wingman Ray]

If she's got her own means of support, then maybe I've misread your situation. But most of the time, the woman is still at least somewhat dependent on the man's income, and acts as a wife without any of the security that marriage brings. Ends up being a pretty raw deal for her.



Being a good spouse--year after year, through all the inevitable challenges life brings, etc.-- is hard work. And that's within the bounds of marriage, with all the security and supports it offers. Without those public vows and the legal buffers designed to support it, even fewer couples stay together for the long haul. Not formalizing things means either party can bolt whenever the arrangement "stops working" for them. And the less dependent person usually does at some point.

Keep in mind that I'm a probate attorney, so I mostly deal with people at the end of their lives. In my 10 years of practice, I can't recall a single instance where someone's unofficial "life partner" was there for them at the end.

Here's a little anecdote that might help explain my perspective. My younger brother got engaged to his undergrad girlfriend soon after graduating. She was terrible, overall and for him specifically, in a number of ways, but he still proposed because his older siblings had been happily married for several years already, and most of his other friends were popping the question too. After about 6 months full of many very uncomfortable conversations, we finally talked him out of it, and they broke off the engagement.

He rebounded by starting to date an old high school flame again. Sweet girl, great for him, my whole family loves her. But they've been "cohabitating" for 6+ years now, and my brother has no intention of marrying her. He usually throws up some bullshit excuse about how "marriage is a bourgeois institution", "why do we need to formalize things", etc. She desperately wants to be married, to have his kids, etc. But he's not willing to give her that security because he doesn't trust himself after the near miss with his undergrad gf. This arrangement is comfortable for my brother, obviously, but it's also allowing him to wallow in an extended adolescence that's bad for him. And it's really unfair for his sweet girlfriend.

Long story short: Marriage makes you a better man. Refusing to marry a woman who's basically acting like your wife is bad for your soul, and you run the risk of dying alone if you refuse to commit.

Just saw this five months later. Dead on Whiskey. Thank you