I legitimately, no sarcasm, feel sorry for you. Your parents and their friends are prejudiced bigots. However, none of what you just listed rises to the modern progressive-accepted definition of racism. They are racists but racism is actually enacting systems of oppression against people of color. Unless your parents actually tried to force you to not live with the black people, or told your black roommates they should find another place to live, it's not racism. Expressing their prejudice to you in a private setting does nothing to enact any sort of oppression on the people of color. And that's basically my point.
In high school, one Korean girl was actually physically beaten by her parents for dating a black kid and forbidden to see him. That's racism.
Woof... so all of the problems are because of evil white people teaching their kids to be evil, and if you "ask what the problem is" you're part of the problem. Everything is "white people's fault," because they are oppressors, and if you dare to even question that then prepare to be labeled. Very #college of you. All of the crap Kaepernick, et. al. say about "starting a conversation" is a lie... it's not about starting a conversation, it's about bullying people into one way of thinking.
Look, I've seen my cousin at a fancy restaurant get mistaken for the valet by a rich old white dude because he's Latino. That's a racist action. My dad, who also looks much more Latino than I, has also been racially profiled by police for being a "beaner" driving a $100k Mercedes. That's also a racist action, and it sucks. But there are no systems of oppression that prevent my cousin from chasing his dreams, or that prevented my dad from being successful.
There are racist people in the world, like your parents, and that's a problem. I wish they didn't exist, but they do and always will. Tribalism is as old as time and will never be stomped out. But the systems of oppression are mostly dead, and while black communities absolutely still feel their effects, that's not what Kap or BLM or anyone else is talking about. They're saying "white cops murder black people for being black"... which is a lie and not supported by facts. They say "mass incarceration is racist"... which it is, but ironically 99%+ of the people affected are voting for the person that helped put it in these systems, so obviously they don't care about it enough to let it affect their vote. So please tell me what active system of oppression currently being supported or implemented by white people against black people Kap, BLM, etc. is proposing a discreet solution to because I will enthusiastically support every single initiative they propose to dismantle them (like I do with mandatory minimums, the for profit prison system, and basically all justice system reform).