I hear ya. The night in 2012 when both Oregon and KSU lost to move us up to #1 everyone was like "We did it!" and I was like "Noooo!" People kept saying they wanted Bama, but they had no idea how far the talent gap was at the time, in addition to the coaching gap. We've made progress in both areas since, and probably will never fully meet them while Saban is there, but I think we're at least capable of an upset and can stand toe to toe with them after our last two meetings with Clemson (The last playoff game wasn't great, but if it weren't for a few untimely injuries in the 2nd quarter we would have kept it close against the Tigers. That's when they scored all their points).
I've been in that boat with you though. My first game ever at ND stadium was the '93 BC game. Talk about bad luck! This season has been cathartic for me after we knocked off #1 Clemson, felt like that '93 monkey is off my back and the team's. I kept expecting another BC to come along and upset us. I was there for the '05 Bush Push. I was there for Davie in 2000 playing for overtime against #1 Nebraska. I came back after two rain delays for USF in 2011. I've seen some great games too though that keep hope alive. The comeback against UCLA in 2006, the improbable win against Utah in 2010, Michigan in 2012, 2014, and every home win the last 20 years.
Bottom line, anything can happen in college football. We're closer now to being a complete team than at any point we've been since the early 90s. Is there still the talent gap with the football power houses? Yeah, and probably always will be, I agree with you there. It's a good time to be an Irish fan though, if this team stays motivated, the coaches stay smart, I truly think we have some chances to do great things. If not, look on the bright side...living in Baton Rouge we're at least 2-0 against LSU for the last decade