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[ndfanatic78]

I don’t know where to put this, but tonight my daughter (27) was choked by her ex-boyfriend. Apparently, this is the second time he’s gotten physical with her. Please, somebody convince me not to fuck him up. I am absolutely livid right now. I don’t want to go to jail and I definitely don’t need a felony conviction, but I don’t know what else to do. I can’t just allow someone to physically hurt my daughter.

Call the police on him. Your daughter doesn’t need a father in jail: she needs a father that is there and shows her how a real man treats a women. Be supportive of her and teach her no man should ever feel the need to put hands on a woman and no man who truley loves her would ever do that. I am truley sorry you are having to deal with this and I believe every man who has a daughter knows the urge you feel to destroy that pathetic excuse for a man, but it will do no good.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

Call the police on him. Your daughter doesn’t need a father in jail: she needs a father that is there and shows her how a real man treats a women. Be supportive of her and teach her no man should ever feel the need to put hands on a woman and no man who truley loves her would ever do that.

She doesn’t want to. I’m at her house and we’re about to talk about everything. We’re definitely going to talk about involving the cops.

 

[ndfanatic78]

She doesn’t want to. I’m at her house and we’re about to talk about everything. We’re definitely going to talk about involving the cops.

Try to explain to her that even if she gets away from him what about the next woman or women he is with and what happens if he becomes even more violent. Again my heart goes out to you for having to deal with this. It’s a shitty situation and you never know how he might react in the future. I also can’t say enough you need to stay calm when discussing this with her and come from a place of love and try to let go of your anger when dealing with her.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

Try to explain to her that even if she gets away from him what about the next woman or women he is with and what happens if he becomes even more violent. Again my heart goes out to you for having to deal with this. It’s a shitty situation and you never know how he might react in the future. I also can’t say enough you need to stay calm when discussing this with her and come from a place of love and try to let go of your anger when dealing with her.

Thank you. This means a lot.

 

[Bishop2b5]

I don’t know where to put this, but tonight my daughter (27) was choked by her ex-boyfriend. Apparently, this is the second time he’s gotten physical with her. Please, somebody convince me not to fuck him up. I am absolutely livid right now. I don’t want to go to jail and I definitely don’t need a felony conviction, but I don’t know what else to do. I can’t just allow someone to physically hurt my daughter.

I'd lean towards the wrong decision here and go stomp the living hell out of him if it was my daughter, but I know that would probably end up badly. I sure can't say I blame you for wanting to, though. ndfanatic is probably right. I'd still call the police no matter what your daughter says. She's thinking emotionally, not rationally. At the very least, there'll be a report and a history if it ever happens again, and they'll talk with him now about what he did.

 

[irishff1014]

I don’t know where to put this, but tonight my daughter (27) was choked by her ex-boyfriend. Apparently, this is the second time he’s gotten physical with her. Please, somebody convince me not to fuck him up. I am absolutely livid right now. I don’t want to go to jail and I definitely don’t need a felony conviction, but I don’t know what else to do. I can’t just allow someone to physically hurt my daughter.

In have made it known my line of work but family first and that especially means my daughter. I would be in this same situation that you are in. I would be livid and ready to kill him too.

But right now your daughter needs you to be the dad and the first guy that ever loved her. But since this is the second you are right about pushing the police to her. It happened 2 times already you have to make her understand that a third will probably happen and it will be worse than the previous times.

We don’t see eye to on a lot of things but I wish you nothing but the best for you to help your daughter. Also sounds like you are a great dad! Stay strong!!

 

[SeekNDestroy]

I'd lean towards the wrong decision here and go stomp the living hell out of him if it was my daughter, but I know that would probably end up badly. I sure can't say I blame you for wanting to, though. ndfanatic is probably right. I'd still call the police no matter what your daughter says. She's thinking emotionally, not rationally. At the very least, there'll be a report and a history if it ever happens again, and they'll talk with him now about what he did.

I’m just now able to reply…been talking to my daughter for the past few hours.

The police have not been called because he would claim that she also abused him and I fear that the police might also arrest her. It’s an awful situation…my daughter believes her ex has BPD and he’s also been gaslighting her, constantly blaming her for his issues, a lot of projecting etc. I just sat and did a lot of listening and trying to convince her that she wasn’t at fault for his behavior. He’s been very mentally and verbally abusive to her as well.

So, that’s where we’re at. I’m doing my best to control my own emotions and just be there for her. Thank you for your caring response. I appreciate your advice.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

In have made it known my line of work but family first and that especially means my daughter. I would be in this same situation that you are in. I would be livid and ready to kill him too.

But right now your daughter needs you to be the dad and the first guy that ever loved her. But since this is the second you are right about pushing the police to her. It happened 2 times already you have to make her understand that a third will probably happen and it will be worse than the previous times.

We don’t see eye to on a lot of things but I wish you nothing but the best for you to help your daughter. Also sounds like you are a great dad! Stay strong!!

Thank you for your advice and your kind words.

 

[ulukinatme]

Definitely don't take matters into your own hands at this point, your daughter needs you close. I'm going to echo what others have said as far as calling the police. Get out in front of this, they need to establish hand prints/bruising so if this guy tries this with anyone else in the future (Hopefully not your daughter, or anyone really) that he's got a known history of violence and can be punished accordingly. He should probably be spending some time behind bars as it is. Lessons don't get learned with slaps on the wrist, there's a good chance he'll just escalate the behavior to get what he wants next time. Restraining order should be a priority I would think.

In the meantime, until he either cools off or is put away, consider moving her in with you for her own protection. If she's unwilling to leave her current residence, I would suggest upgrading security measures and maybe notify some close neighbors so they can keep an eye out if he's prowling the area. Let them know what kind of car he drives, description, etc. Keep lights on around the property at night. I would advise that she not be alone for the immediate future till the situation de-escalates.

I'm sorry for your daughter and your family, nobody should have go go through that kind of crap. It can be scary what crazy ex's are capable of. I've not been on the physical end of it, but I've been stalked and gaslit myself. I'm glad your daughter wasn't seriously hurt, some aren't so lucky. Not only has he been physically abusive, but certainly mentally and emotionally. She's going to need a lot of healing to overcome the crap he's put her through. I wish you guys the best.

 

[GrangerIrish24]

I’m just now able to reply…been talking to my daughter for the past few hours.

The police have not been called because he would claim that she also abused him and I fear that the police might also arrest her. It’s an awful situation…my daughter believes her ex has BPD and he’s also been gaslighting her, constantly blaming her for his issues, a lot of projecting etc. I just sat and did a lot of listening and trying to convince her that she wasn’t at fault for his behavior. He’s been very mentally and verbally abusive to her as well.

So, that’s where we’re at. I’m doing my best to control my own emotions and just be there for her. Thank you for your caring response. I appreciate your advice.

My prayers are with you and your family as you deal with situation. As a father of three, I can completely understand why you would want to handle this yourself. Stay strong for your daughter and be the support she needs.

on the other hand, I do own about 110 acres of farmland land and forest area with a lot of room for unbothered digging. just saying

 

[ndfanatic78]

My prayers are with you and your family as you deal with situation. As a father of three, I can completely understand why you would want to handle this yourself. Stay strong for your daughter and be the support she needs.

on the other hand, I do own about 110 acres of farmland land and forest area with a lot of room for unbothered digging. just saying

We would just need to get some pigs and we’d be set. Dumping grounds for abusive douche bags.

 

[Irish#1]

Seek, sorry to read about this. Flipping the blame is a classic move to justify their actions. Since it’s happened twice, it will happen a third. Go ask a policeman what you should do. I bet he tells you to report this. Your daughter will be mad at you, but it will only be temporary when she understands it’s out of love.

Sometimes parents have to make tough choices.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

Definitely don't take matters into your own hands at this point, your daughter needs you close. I'm going to echo what others have said as far as calling the police. Get out in front of this, they need to establish hand prints/bruising so if this guy tries this with anyone else in the future (Hopefully not your daughter, or anyone really) that he's got a known history of violence and can be punished accordingly. He should probably be spending some time behind bars as it is. Lessons don't get learned with slaps on the wrist, there's a good chance he'll just escalate the behavior to get what he wants next time. Restraining order should be a priority I would think.

In the meantime, until he either cools off or is put away, consider moving her in with you for her own protection. If she's unwilling to leave her current residence, I would suggest upgrading security measures and maybe notify some close neighbors so they can keep an eye out if he's prowling the area. Let them know what kind of car he drives, description, etc. Keep lights on around the property at night. I would advise that she not be alone for the immediate future till the situation de-escalates.

I'm sorry for your daughter and your family, nobody should have go go through that kind of crap. It can be scary what crazy ex's are capable of. I've not been on the physical end of it, but I've been stalked and gaslit myself. I'm glad your daughter wasn't seriously hurt, some aren't so lucky. Not only has he been physically abusive, but certainly mentally and emotionally. She's going to need a lot of healing to overcome the crap he's put her through. I wish you guys the best.

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate your advice.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

My prayers are with you and your family as you deal with situation. As a father of three, I can completely understand why you would want to handle this yourself. Stay strong for your daughter and be the support she needs.

on the other hand, I do own about 110 acres of farmland land and forest area with a lot of room for unbothered digging. just saying

Thank you, Granger. I’ll keep you in mind for any future body disposals. Seriously, though, thanks for your thoughts.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

Seek, sorry to read about this. Flipping the blame is a classic move to justify their actions. Since it’s happened twice, it will happen a third. Go ask a policeman what you should do. I bet he tells you to report this. Your daughter will be mad at you, but it will only be temporary when she understands it’s out of love.

Sometimes parents have to make tough choices.

Thanks, Irish#1. I’m going to take your advice and talk to an officer. I just feel so indecisive right now and I hate it. I appreciate all the advice that I’ve been given and now I have to make some possibly life altering decisions.

 

[ndfanatic78]

Thanks, Irish#1. I’m going to take your advice and talk to an officer. I just feel so indecisive right now and I hate it. I appreciate all the advice that I’ve been given and now I have to make some possibly life altering decisions.

You gotta stay positive and stay in a place of love for your daughter. Talking to a cop and getting their opinion is good advice. Remember the key here is just making sure your daughter feels safe and secure coming to you and taking to you about these things. Beyond that you might want to talk to her about staying with you for a week or so if at all possible until things settle down. I have been in a relationship where I always had her issues projected on me and that would cause me doubt of who I was and would make me question if I was the one really causing the issues, but in the end none of that mattered the fact of the matter was that we weren’t compatible and again to my earlier post no matter whether she antagonized him or not there is never ever any excuse for physical violence and this dude has done it twice. No matter what you choose to do as long as you make your daughter feel safe coming to you and taking with you you doing the right thing. The only thing I would truly be concerned about is how obsessive this dude is and making sure your daughter knows going back to him would be the worst decision she should could make.

Apologies if any of this is coming off as lecturing. Just trying to support you in this shitty situation and give the best advice I can.

 

[SeekNDestroy]

You gotta stay positive and stay in a place of love for your daughter. Talking to a cop and getting their opinion is good advice. Remember the key here is just making sure your daughter feels safe and secure coming to you and taking to you about these things. Beyond that you might want to talk to her about staying with you for a week or so if at all possible until things settle down. I have been in a relationship where I always had her issues projected on me and that would cause me doubt of who I was and would make me question if I was the one really causing the issues, but in the end none of that mattered the fact of the matter was that we weren’t compatible and again to my earlier post no matter whether she antagonized him or not there is never ever any excuse for physical violence and this dude has done it twice. No matter what you choose to do as long as you make your daughter feel safe coming to you and taking with you you doing the right thing. The only thing I would truly be concerned about is how obsessive this dude is and making sure your daughter knows going back to him would the worst decision should could make.

Oppologies if any of this is coming off as lecturing. Just trying to support you in this shitty situation and give the best advice I can.

No apologies necessary at all! I can’t tell you how much it means to me to receive all these thoughtful responses. I’m really grateful for this little community we have here.

 

[Ndaccountant]

Don't have anything else to add other than I wish you both the best. This will be a long recovery process, but the resolve to do the right thing in the heat of the moment should give you comfort to know you have what it takes for the long haul. God bless.

 

[dublinirish]

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[notredomer23]

Bass Pro Pyramid worth it? I’m in Memphis area for a few days for work

 

[Bishop2b5]

I had to share an experience I had last week. I took my truck to the dealership for a repair. The woman who checked me in took me to the waiting area and said that when my service was done, she'd let me know and I could then follow her to her desk and do all my paperwork. About an hour later she brings me a sheet and tells me to meet her down the hall at her desk. I first went outside to my truck and tossed some stuff in, including the sheet she gave me. When I got to her desk she asked me for that sheet. I had to go back to my truck and retrieve it. I was a little confused. Why had she given it to me if she was going to need it back? I had no need of it at all. I asked her why and she said, "So you'd know to bring it to my desk and check out."

Me: "But you printed it right here at your desk and brought it to me. I didn't need it. Why didn't you just keep it?'

Her: "So you could bring it to me and check out."

Me; "But to check out, I just brought it back to you. Why didn't you just keep it instead of giving it to me?"

Her: "Because I need you to bring it to me so I can do your paperwork."

Me: "But you already had it. I didn't need it. Why didn't you just keep it and tell me you were ready for me to check out?"

Her: "Oh! So you'd be able to check out!"

Me: (In my head) "Bless your stupid fucking heart."

 

[Huntr]

Bass Pro Pyramid worth it? I’m in Memphis area for a few days for work

It's just a Bass Pro, not really different than any other. But, it's the giant pyramid, so yes.

BBQ Shop is my favorite barbecue in Memphis, so get some of that if you have a chance. Payne's is good, too.

I like Memphis a lot. Lots of history there and interesting things to see.

 

[Irish#1]

It's just a Bass Pro, not really different than any other. But, it's the giant pyramid, so yes.

BBQ Shop is my favorite barbecue in Memphis, so get some of that if you have a chance. Payne's is good, too.

I like Memphis a lot. Lots of history there and interesting things to see.

Beale Street on the weekends is great. Love how they close it off to cars and let you carry your drinks around.

P.S. I'm not a lush. lol

 

[notredomer23]

It's just a Bass Pro, not really different than any other. But, it's the giant pyramid, so yes.

BBQ Shop is my favorite barbecue in Memphis, so get some of that if you have a chance. Payne's is good, too.

I like Memphis a lot. Lots of history there and interesting things to see.

thanks for the recs! I’m very pleasantly surprised so far by the area. Gonna have BBQ Shop for dinner

 

[Huntr]

 

[Huntr]

So, you know this is gonna suck when all 8 Waffle Houses in Tally are now closed for this storm.

All Waffle Houses in Tallahassee closing as Helene approaches

 

[irishnd31]

I don’t know where to put this, but tonight my daughter (27) was choked by her ex-boyfriend. Apparently, this is the second time he’s gotten physical with her. Please, somebody convince me not to fuck him up. I am absolutely livid right now. I don’t want to go to jail and I definitely don’t need a felony conviction, but I don’t know what else to do. I can’t just allow someone to physically hurt my daughter.

So sorry bro. You need to look out for her but also make sure that you are looking out for yourself. That piece of shit boyfriend will find his way into jail or the grave but it just can't be by your hand. Take care you and your daughter my friend and again I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this monster.

 

[Huntr]

This hurricane we just had made landfall like 25 miles from my house. If it had not jogged a tiny little bit east, I, and the rest of Tallahassee, would have been double plus fucked.

As it was, there has been a TON of damage. This storm was huge and incredibly powerful.

 

[m-araim]

How do I watch the game. I only have spectrum TV, I don't carry peacock.

 

[Giddyup]

Find a buddy who has peacock and get their password.