Going through a rough breakup...

[Irish#1]

I can't say I agree with his wisdom, but damn good musician

Love was the term for getting laid back then.

 

[Polish Leppy 22]

Ugh.



Someone say something nice to me, please

I went through this last month after a 32 month relationship. It's brutal.

1. Sadness
2. Analysis of relationship
3. Panic (what now?)
4. Longing for friends and family.
5. More sadness
6. Time
7. Tinder (even looking at singles of the opposite sex can help)

And hopefully after a month or two, you're ready to move on and have the mindset of Stiffler in the last 15 seconds of this video. I mean I do, but I'm a dude.

Head up!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d94xhkuAnUA

 

[johnnycando]

Does this ex have any good friends you have access to???


Revenge sex

Amen.

 

[Quinntastic]

I am feeling those exact feelings right now, Leppy. Thankfully I work with a lot of amazing people who have been doing a great job or making me feel better. But I always treat my relationships like a living, breathing organism. So I am feeling many of the same grieving feelings I would feel if a very close friend died.

 

[Wild Bill]

Somehow I missed that you were a microbiologist despite it being written under your handle. Maybe it would help to talk about something else. What kind of microbiology do you do?

Clinical - I work at a hospital so I have clinical specimens brought that are set up onto agar plates and analyzed for growth - then the bacteria identified to the species level and checked for antibiotic sensitivity/resistance so the doctor knows what to treat the patient with and how much it will take to cure the infection.

What technique do you use for species identification in a clinical setting? Honestly curious, I've only worked in an academic bioengineering setting, which is obviously a bit different.

We use a hybrid mix of old school biochemical testing (PYR, latex agglutination to speciate Streptococcus species, coagulase, oxidase, indole, etc) and relying on some newer technologies (making a 0.5 McFarland suspension of the bacterial growth as determined by densitometer and putting it on an automated analyzer to speciate and give an MIC result).

Also, for our positive blood cultures, we are able to take a small (0.1 mL) sample of the blood/liquid culture media suspension and run it on another analyzer that gives us an ID in one hour, along with any antibiotic resistance gene detection (mecA for MRSA, etc)

 

[Bishop2b5]

Lots of sound advice already given, so I don't have anything earth shattering that can magically make everything pleasant. However, given that I have a few more miles on me than you do, I can tell you that this isn't as big a deal as it appears to be this moment. Occupy your free time with something that gets you out of the house. Go to the park, a mall or someplace where there are other people and do some people watching. Lots of interesting people walking around.

Very much in line with what I was going to say. As much as you may want to, don't sit around and mope or dwell on your pain. Even though you definitely don't feel like it, get out and do the things that happy people do. Fake it till you make it, as they say. No surer or faster way to start feeling better again. Do the things you'd be doing if all was well in your life and you'll get there a lot sooner.

 

[connor_in]

Quinntastic as she reads all these posts going by

 

[connor_in]

Whatever you do, don't be like this when the next cute guy comes along...

 

[Quinntastic]

Both of those gifs are accurate descriptions of me, btw.

That said, I'm putting myself on a strict one month ban from dating. It's tempting, but it's going to be detrimental to my own well-being to jump right into another relationship. I need to let this one die first.

 

[Circa]

Both of those gifs are accurate descriptions of me, btw.

That said, I'm putting myself on a strict one month ban from dating. It's tempting, but it's going to be detrimental to my own well-being to jump right into another relationship. I need to let this one die first.

and thee temptation shall set ye free... haa

 

[Quinntastic]

Also, WTF is "Tinder"?

 

[zelezo vlk]

Also, WTF is "Tinder"?

A wasteland where one reduces potential hookups to a first impression.

 

[ulukinatme]

Also, WTF is "Tinder"?

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[Quinntastic]

That is hilarious - I love it

 

[johnnycando]

Also, WTF is "Tinder"?

Ask Manti Te'o.

 

[Quinntastic]

Ask Manti Te'o.

BAZINGA

 

[NDRock]

Gotta say, I'm impressed with the responses so far. Very mature and some sound advice. I assumed someone would have suggested to TIIYB by now. Well done gentlemen, well done.

 

[RyCo1983]

Gotta say, I'm impressed with the responses so far. Very mature and some sound advice. I assumed someone would have suggested to TIIYB by now. Well done gentlemen, well done.

You clearly missed my mentioning of her favorite acronym on page 1, that of course, alluding to a previous series of posts in another thread.

 

[NDRock]

You clearly missed my mentioning of her favorite acronym on page 1, that of course, alluding to a previous series of posts in another thread.

That's a relief, thought everyone was going soft around here.

 

[Quinntastic]

Tee hee, "going soft"

 

[RyCo1983]

That's a relief, thought everyone was going soft around here.

Not possible! NOT POSSIBLE!

I figured the reference to the acronym would alleviate some grief via humour due to previous post exchanges.


Anyway

Serious talk,
Take some time off, then play the field.

 

[kmoose]

Make sure you play this song a lot, around the house:

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