Your assumption that they are under my purview is only somewhat correct. While I pick them, I don't actually see every post and action. If something is deleted and you think it on-topic and not warranting a delete, you might consider alerting me to it.
As to posts from mods you find abusive, as I've mentioned before, I think you're right, but that's something I am dealing with in private as I am wont to do. But you're a different bloke, smoke what you like.
I am unsurprised that you think your social group is an "accepted avenue of complaint." The board does in fact allow for a private messaging. While we need not be simpatico, we both can directly use that language you're so fond of to have a discussion.