I completely agree! I never thought my parents spanking me was abusive. It simply taught me to act better and be a civilized person instead of a wild heathen. My philosophy is that our #1 job as a parent is to help our children become good adults. That includes teaching them to deal with confrontation, overcome adversity, be respectful, learn how to work hard, be responsible for their own behavior, think for themselves, understand that everything they do has consequences - good or bad, and teaching them to win AND lose gracefully. Treating them as porcelain dolls, as you say, robs them of much of that and doesn't prepare them for life. I'm afraid we're now seeing a generation of kids who are totally unprepared for the sometimes harsh realities of life and are little more than spoiled, self-obsessed, neurotic weaklings.