What Really Grinds Your Gears?

[GATTACA!]

How about the oblivious fucks that don't understand how to drive in parking lots? Drive on the right side of the aisle! Yesterday at Walmart (I avoid these hellholes as much as possible) some lady was giving me dirty looks because I was in HER way as she drove right down the center of the lane. Bitch this is your fault!

 

[zelezo vlk]

How about the oblivious fucks that don't understand how to drive in parking lots? Drive on the right side of the aisle! Yesterday at Walmart (I avoid these hellholes as much as possible) some lady was giving me dirty looks because I was in HER way as she drove right down the center of the lane. Bitch this is your fault!

Or the people who cut perpendicularly through 1 way aisles then turn (the wrong way) in front of you and expect you to move. Nah man I'm good sitting here until you move out of my way.

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[Irish#1]

I’m not though! Most people get it, because they’re familiar with the highway and how the lanes collapse, but there’s always the one guy that ignores the established merge pattern and cuts you off or rides you into the reflectors when it’s your turn, even when he sees that everyone else is taking turns

Easy fix. I'll give you three options to make your life easier.
1. Move
2. Get a new job.
3. Buy a helicopter

 

[Irish#1]

How about the oblivious fucks that don't understand how to drive in parking lots? Drive on the right side of the aisle! Yesterday at Walmart (I avoid these hellholes as much as possible) some lady was giving me dirty looks because I was in HER way as she drove right down the center of the lane. Bitch this is your fault!

No Whining. You know what you're getting into when you pull in there.

 

[Irish#1]

Remodeling the master bath. Wife finds a vanity online thru Perigold (Wayfair owned and operated). She orders and we get an email the next day with the delivery date. A couple of days later we get another email telling us the vanity will be delivered between 3-7. Delivery day arrives. 6:30 and so far no vanity so I call the number provided. I get an automated message to leave name and number and they will get back with us. About an hour later, no vanity so I call again, with no luck. The next day I call and get an apology and a promise to call me back that day with a date for later in the week. Never get a return call, but that evening I get an email that the vanity will be delivered next Monday between 3-7. It's now Monday at 7:00 with no vanity. I call Perigold and request a refund. They tell me it's on the way and to give them until 8:00 and call back if it's not there by 8:00. 8:00, no vanity. I tell them I want a refund. They say no problem, but there will be a deduction of $124 for the reroute of the truck. WTF? I tell them no way I'm paying for something that didn't get delivered twice. I'm told to call back tomorrow and a refund will be issued. As soon as I hang up, I get a call from the trucking company saying they will be there in 15 minutes. Coincidence? Truck shows up and the guy tells me the marble top is cracked! F@ck! I refuse delivery and call back. The only right thing they did was get a full refund issued right away. Back to vanity hunting.

 

[INLaw]

Remodeling the master bath. Wife finds a vanity online thru Perigold (Wayfair owned and operated). She orders and we get an email the next day with the delivery date. A couple of days later we get another email telling us the vanity will be delivered between 3-7. Delivery day arrives. 6:30 and so far no vanity so I call the number provided. I get an automated message to leave name and number and they will get back with us. About an hour later, no vanity so I call again, with no luck. The next day I call and get an apology and a promise to call me back that day with a date for later in the week. Never get a return call, but that evening I get an email that the vanity will be delivered next Monday between 3-7. It's now Monday at 7:00 with no vanity. I call Perigold and request a refund. They tell me it's on the way and to give them until 8:00 and call back if it's not there by 8:00. 8:00, no vanity. I tell them I want a refund. They say no problem, but there will be a deduction of $124 for the reroute of the truck. WTF? I tell them no way I'm paying for something that didn't get delivered twice. I'm told to call back tomorrow and a refund will be issued. As soon as I hang up, I get a call from the trucking company saying they will be there in 15 minutes. Coincidence? Truck shows up and the guy tells me the marble top is cracked! F@ck! I refuse delivery and call back. The only right thing they did was get a full refund issued right away. Back to vanity hunting.

Any semblance of reasonable customer service has absolutely died across the board starting with this Covid time

 

[Bishop2b5]

I'm trying not to be petty here, but...

Back in Alabama, a family friend was leaving to go overseas for a year in the military. I offered to take him, his wife, and their two kids out to dinner (along with my siblings and a couple of my daughters) so we could all show our appreciation. His wife shows up dragging two of their children's friends along to dinner because they were staying over for the weekend. She didn't ask if I'd feed them too, didn't offer to pay for their food, and didn't even say, "Sorry, we didn't know what else to do." Just showed up with them and expected me to pay. It's not the money. Feeding two kids was not even and extra $20. It was the principle and lack of manners. And on top of that, she didn't even bother to say thank you for any of it.

 

[bkess8]

I could start a rant about youth sports in the state of California and how people have lost sight on winning isn't everything and there are other lessons to be learned from being a part of a team!

 

[GowerND11]

I could start a rant about youth sports in the state of California and how people have lost sight on winning isn't everything and there are other lessons to be learned from being a part of a team!

Before moving up to being an assistant on our varsity staff 3 years ago, I spent a while as a 7th and 8th grade coach for boys' basketball. Now, this is the age where winning is what a lot of it comes down to, and there is no guaranteed playing time for little Timmy who picks his nose in the corner. That said, it's still a time when learning the game, learning how to play, learning how to think on the court, etc. are extremely important.

I say that, because it wasn't uncommon for my teams to have losing records at the end of the year. Sometimes this was due to not having as much talent as the other team, but it often ALSO had to do with how we played basketball. I was teaching them how to play proper man to man defense, run a continuity offense, and more. These other schools would sit in a 2-3 zone knowing 7th and 8th graders can't properly break a zone down all the time, and would just use size (the early growers) to grab rebounds. It never bothered me as long as my guys got better every week and played hard.

Fast forward to whenever the same teams are in varsity games... We've had a pretty decent program the last decade, finally winning districts this year after a 45 year drought. But throughout it all, more often than not our varsity teams throughout the years would beat those other schools that would beat us in junior high. Why? Because we can play hard man defense all game long. We can break down a zone now after learning the game properly, and when these teams would have to match up and play us man, they couldn't do it. I always told my teams, there's no banner for winning in 7th grade. It paid off with this group.

 

[ACamp1900]

I could start a rant about youth sports in the state of California and how people have lost sight on winning isn't everything and there are other lessons to be learned from being a part of a team!

Bro,.... I moved to El Paso from So Cal.... EP kicked Little League out of the city completely because LL wouldn't allow travel teams and hand picked, recruited rosters... AT THE U8 LEVEL!!!! It's pure insanity.

They didn't have girls teams on my side of town until this season and I couldn't drive my daughter an hour one way to the far east side so she had to play with boys our first two years out here. It's ridiculous honestly in terms of how bad it is and it's all driven by these damned parents. They'll let their kids run all over the teachers in school, drop F bombs at the park in between games, stare at screens 90% of the day even when out and about... but if you try to get an evenly distributed league where everyone has a fair enough chance they go absolutely ape shit... the priorities could not be more backwards but what segment of our society isn't that way currently?

(Ends TedTalk)

 

[bkess8]

I am glad many of us share the same frustrations. I coach girls softball at the varsity level and also took on two teams at the rec level. One rec team is 12u and the other is 14u. Last fall my 12u rec team went 13-0 and won the championship, I was blessed with mature 12u girls that wanted to play the game. This seasons 12u girls are not that talented or mature and some are "my parents make me play" kids. They have become better ball players as the season has went on but are not a championship team and I am okay with that. The problem is the league... I took on a 14u team this season because three of the girls on my team begged me and my wife to coach their team because they had younger sisters that played for us before. Well the league is a complete shitshow... after the draft for the league I find out that coaches are hiding pitchers and telling girls not to do well at tryouts so they can keep their core group together to win (mind you this is rec softball not travel). So I went to the league board with many suggestions on how to ensure development is happening and to get rid of what I like to call Phil Jackson coaches but was quickly shot down because many of the board members are in the good ole boy club and like how things are ran. To make an extremely long story short... I will be moving to travel in the fall!

 

[IrishLion]

My kid is playing tee ball for the second year in a row, and I can already see the travel/select/draft stuff going haywire... at the 7u level!

He's pretty advanced for a 5yo, so I thought about signing him up for 7u coach pitch just to keep him engaged. He gets bored hitting off of the tee and would rather take live BP like we do at home in the yard, so even if he was behind the 6/7yo kids athletically, he'd at least be engaged and challenged the whole time. Plus I know one of the 7u coaches from high school football days, so it made sense to just reach out and see what he said.

First, we got a soft 'no' because he had too many 6/7yo kids signed up... then one of the other dads I knew from the flag football league told me it's because they plan to transition this to a select/travel squad down the line, and don't want to be committed to a younger kid on the roster when they don't know how good he might be down the line... as if they know how good any of these kids will be lol.

BUT THEN, one of the other dads recognized his name from last year's tee ball team and knew him as one of the young kids that could hit the ball to the grass off the tee and throw accurately to first base, so then I got a soft 'yes' because someone vouched for my kid's skills as a future member of the team.... at 5 years old.

It all felt weird, so we just stuck with the tee ball league... he can play coach pitch next year when there are more kids his age involved. I'm not trying to be a crazy sports dad [yet, until he's a prototype QB prospect for ND in the future]. I'm just trying to get him to a level that might be more fun, but not if they're already talking about forming a talented roster when these kids all don't even know how to pay attention the whole time yet.

 

[ACamp1900]

Competitive coach pitch is like those COVID masks with the giant mouth holes in them,… it’s either/or dipshits.

If you require a coach to pitch then their not ready for cut throat competition,… but whatever.

 

[ACamp1900]

Nhl pregame just now:

Pens past playoff success doesn’t matter. Goalie issues are huge for them.

Very next segment:

Boston has so much playoff success ( they have less than the pens) that you can never count them out. Their goalie issues won’t matter because,… whatever.

 

[GowerND11]

My kid is playing tee ball for the second year in a row, and I can already see the travel/select/draft stuff going haywire... at the 7u level!

He's pretty advanced for a 5yo, so I thought about signing him up for 7u coach pitch just to keep him engaged. He gets bored hitting off of the tee and would rather take live BP like we do at home in the yard, so even if he was behind the 6/7yo kids athletically, he'd at least be engaged and challenged the whole time. Plus I know one of the 7u coaches from high school football days, so it made sense to just reach out and see what he said.

First, we got a soft 'no' because he had too many 6/7yo kids signed up... then one of the other dads I knew from the flag football league told me it's because they plan to transition this to a select/travel squad down the line, and don't want to be committed to a younger kid on the roster when they don't know how good he might be down the line... as if they know how good any of these kids will be lol.

BUT THEN, one of the other dads recognized his name from last year's tee ball team and knew him as one of the young kids that could hit the ball to the grass off the tee and throw accurately to first base, so then I got a soft 'yes' because someone vouched for my kid's skills as a future member of the team.... at 5 years old.

It all felt weird, so we just stuck with the tee ball league... he can play coach pitch next year when there are more kids his age involved. I'm not trying to be a crazy sports dad [yet, until he's a prototype QB prospect for ND in the future]. I'm just trying to get him to a level that might be more fun, but not if they're already talking about forming a talented roster when these kids all don't even know how to pay attention the whole time yet.

I have so much to say about travel ball, it's ruining of the sport, the decisions made at 6-7 years old that ONLY "these kids" will be good in 10 years, and it's leaving out of poor children to play the sport.

 

[pumpdog20]

What grinds my gears... hallmark holidays. Fucking hate them.

 

[Veritate Duce Progredi]

My kid is playing tee ball for the second year in a row, and I can already see the travel/select/draft stuff going haywire... at the 7u level!

He's pretty advanced for a 5yo, so I thought about signing him up for 7u coach pitch just to keep him engaged. He gets bored hitting off of the tee and would rather take live BP like we do at home in the yard, so even if he was behind the 6/7yo kids athletically, he'd at least be engaged and challenged the whole time. Plus I know one of the 7u coaches from high school football days, so it made sense to just reach out and see what he said.

First, we got a soft 'no' because he had too many 6/7yo kids signed up... then one of the other dads I knew from the flag football league told me it's because they plan to transition this to a select/travel squad down the line, and don't want to be committed to a younger kid on the roster when they don't know how good he might be down the line... as if they know how good any of these kids will be lol.

BUT THEN, one of the other dads recognized his name from last year's tee ball team and knew him as one of the young kids that could hit the ball to the grass off the tee and throw accurately to first base, so then I got a soft 'yes' because someone vouched for my kid's skills as a future member of the team.... at 5 years old.

It all felt weird, so we just stuck with the tee ball league... he can play coach pitch next year when there are more kids his age involved. I'm not trying to be a crazy sports dad [yet, until he's a prototype QB prospect for ND in the future]. I'm just trying to get him to a level that might be more fun, but not if they're already talking about forming a talented roster when these kids all don't even know how to pay attention the whole time yet.

Because parents are all fucking psychotic. We have kids trying out for select/All-star teams and there are coaches in the 7u league who are condescendingly yelling at the kids in various ways. My good friend and his kid just had this experience and I told him, "Fuck that". My children will be multiple sport athletes at least until high school.

Fuck all these parents and coaches living vicariously through the children. The kids are learning how to have fun and play the sport, they don't need our baggage before they step on the field. My son is in the top 20% of what I've seen from the other 7u players but IDGAF. I take him out and we practice throwing and batting and we have fun. When the season is over, he gets to turn his sights on another sport, not extend his season in hopes of becoming an MLB prospect.

I fuckin hate these assholes who overanalyze their kids and have their happiness tied up in their kid's performance. Don't fall victim and don't let your kid(s) burnout. That is the greatest mission you have as a parent.

 

[IrishLion]

Because parents are all fucking psychotic. We have kids trying out for select/All-star teams and there are coaches in the 7u league who are condescendingly yelling at the kids in various ways. My good friend and his kid just had this experience and I told him, "Fuck that". My children will be multiple sport athletes at least until high school.

Fuck all these parents and coaches living vicariously through the children. The kids are learning how to have fun and play the sport, they don't need our baggage before they step on the field. My son is in the top 20% of what I've seen from the other 7u players but IDGAF. I take him out and we practice throwing and batting and we have fun. When the season is over, he gets to turn his sights on another sport, not extend his season in hopes of becoming an MLB prospect.

I fuckin hate these assholes who overanalyze their kids and have their happiness tied up in their kid's performance. Don't fall victim and don't let your kid(s) burnout. That is the greatest mission you have as a parent.

This is where we're at. My son loves it all, so he'll play it all as long as he's willing. He'll go to football in the fall, and he says he wants to play soccer too, so we'll see if the schedules work. Then he'll play basketball in the winter, then rinse and repeat as long as he doesn't start complaining about having to go to anything.

My wife asked one day if we were going to burn him out by signing him up for a sport each season... but the kid won't let me sit on the couch for more than half an hour on the weekends before he's asking to go out and toss or hit or throw the football around. He has no interest in playing inside with toys. When we go to the store, it's the sports aisle, not the toy aisle. He asked me if he could buy a Rugby ball the other day, just because it's a type of sports ball that he doesn't have yet lol.

 

[GowerND11]

This is where we're at. My son loves it all, so he'll play it all as long as he's willing. He'll go to football in the fall, and he says he wants to play soccer too, so we'll see if the schedules work. Then he'll play basketball in the winter, then rinse and repeat as long as he doesn't start complaining about having to go to anything.

My wife asked one day if we were going to burn him out by signing him up for a sport each season... but the kid won't let me sit on the couch for more than half an hour on the weekends before he's asking to go out and toss or hit or throw the football around. He has no interest in playing inside with toys. When we go to the store, it's the sports aisle, not the toy aisle. He asked me if he could buy a Rugby ball the other day, just because it's a type of sports ball that he doesn't have yet lol.

I would never fear burnout when they are playing multiple sports. It's when a kid only plays one all year that it occurs. Multiple sports prevent the burnout because it keeps things fresh.

 

[Some Irish Bloke]

NIL.

Not the idea of it, but the execution as it's currently playing out.

 

[Veritate Duce Progredi]

This is where we're at. My son loves it all, so he'll play it all as long as he's willing. He'll go to football in the fall, and he says he wants to play soccer too, so we'll see if the schedules work. Then he'll play basketball in the winter, then rinse and repeat as long as he doesn't start complaining about having to go to anything.

My wife asked one day if we were going to burn him out by signing him up for a sport each season... but the kid won't let me sit on the couch for more than half an hour on the weekends before he's asking to go out and toss or hit or throw the football around. He has no interest in playing inside with toys. When we go to the store, it's the sports aisle, not the toy aisle. He asked me if he could buy a Rugby ball the other day, just because it's a type of sports ball that he doesn't have yet lol.

Very similar to my oldest and my middle daughter is starting to show more interest. My youngest son just wants to do whatever they're doing.

My son always wants to go out and play basketball or throw with me or go to the cages or wrestle in the house and practice moves. We have two rules regarding sports:

1. One sport per season, we have 3 kids and it's untenable to bounce all around for multiple sports and multiple kids.
2. If you start a season. you must finish it.

My oldest enjoys baseball, basketball, soccer and wrestling. We aren't going to allow him to specialize until he's in high school. At that point, we'll have a discussion about burnout and multiple sport outcomes but he'll be old enough to begin making his own decisions. I'll still push each of my kids to avoid single sport focus as long as possible but I want to balance that with offering them developing autonomy over their lives.

 

[ACamp1900]

Burnout is real even if you change up the sports. I was baseball>soccer> football most of my life and then in the middle of high school I gave it all up as i was just. burnt. out.

My best sport was baseball and a number of guys I played with ended up getting drafted. I was better than about half of them. I am certain had I not given up I would have gotten drafted, bounced around the minors and gotten school paid for like many of my friends. I don't really regret much in life but that is the big what if in my past. I say by about the age of 12 pick a sport and stick with it, and take breaks... no year round stuff.

 

[Veritate Duce Progredi]

Burnout is real even if you change up the sports. I was baseball>soccer> football most of my life and then in the middle of high school I gave it all up as i was just. burnt. out.

My best sport was baseball and a number of guys I played with ended up getting drafted. I was better than about half of them. I am certain had I not given up I would have gotten drafted, bounced around the minors and gotten school paid for like many of my friends. I don't really regret much in life but that is the big what if in my past. I say by about the age of 12 pick a sport and stick with it, and take breaks... no year round stuff.

Were sports driven by your parents or by you?

Our children have no requirements to be in a sport every season, we just keep a max of 1 sport at a time. I'd be happy if they took a season off and joined the academic bowl or chess club or anything else to develop the mind.

 

[ACamp1900]

Were sports driven by your parents or by you?

Our children have no requirements to be in a sport every season, we just keep a max of 1 sport at a time. I'd be happy if they took a season off and joined the academic bowl or chess club or anything else to develop the mind.

My dad for sure.

Yes, I think a fair distinction is if the kid wants to do it on their own... my nephew LOVES BBall and is on full ride to one of the St Mary's back east now... he played almost non stop during his childhood so.

 

[Veritate Duce Progredi]

Burnout is real even if you change up the sports. I was baseball>soccer> football most of my life and then in the middle of high school I gave it all up as i was just. burnt. out.

My best sport was baseball and a number of guys I played with ended up getting drafted. I was better than about half of them. I am certain had I not given up I would have gotten drafted, bounced around the minors and gotten school paid for like many of my friends. I don't really regret much in life but that is the big what if in my past. I say by about the age of 12 pick a sport and stick with it, and take breaks... no year round stuff.

The data I've seen does not back up this claim.

 

[ACamp1900]

The data I've seen does not back up this claim.

Data as it pertains to what?? I know the hard core parents love to site scholarships and such but I'm referring to the child's general happiness. If a kid loves to play they love to play. And fair play there... however, I see more often the kids that go all year are DYING for breaks and never get it. In fact I help coach my daughter's softball team. There is an option to go all year or just play in the spring, we are the latter... the kids who are forced to be the former, almost all of them are growing to openly hate it. My story also always sits heavy with me... if i had taken more time to just be a kid I don't think I'd have quit when I did. Anyway,...

 

[IrishLion]

Burnout is real even if you change up the sports. I was baseball>soccer> football most of my life and then in the middle of high school I gave it all up as i was just. burnt. out.

My best sport was baseball and a number of guys I played with ended up getting drafted. I was better than about half of them. I am certain had I not given up I would have gotten drafted, bounced around the minors and gotten school paid for like many of my friends. I don't really regret much in life but that is the big what if in my past. I say by about the age of 12 pick a sport and stick with it, and take breaks... no year round stuff.

Not quite as big as your 'what if' situation, but I always regretted not playing baseball in high school to see how I might have developed. My varsity football coach convinced me during winter conditioning freshman year that I could play on the offensive line as a sophomore if I skipped frosh baseball and participated in Spring football practices and workouts instead.

It had a big effect on me hearing that, because I wasn't really 'good' at sports like other kids through grade school. I started too late, and wasn't a natural like other guys. So hearing from the varsity line coach that I could play on his line as a sophomore if I dedicated myself to football was a huge ego boost.

And to his credit, he didn't *technically* lie. I got good playing time on a line that had plenty of seniors and juniors in front of me. But, it was a small Catholic high school, so looking back, I know it was probably just manipulation. He didn't necessarily care or believe that I might turn into a contributor early on. He was just trying to make sure there wasn't a risk that I'd become a 'baseball-only' guy. He wanted to make sure he was preserving a body for football numbers.

 

[Veritate Duce Progredi]

Data as it pertains to what?? I know the hard core parents love to site scholarships and such but I'm referring to the child's general happiness. If a kid loves to play they love to play. And fair play there... however, I see more often the kids that go all year are DYING for breaks and never get it. In fact I help coach my daughter's softball team. There is an option to go all year or just play in the spring, we are the latter... the kids who are forced to be the former, almost all of them are growing to openly hate it. My story also always sits heavy with me... if i had taken more time to just be a kid I don't think I'd have quit when I did. Anyway,...

Whoa, I should've expounded a little. The data suggests kids should continue playing multiple sports and not going to year round model until very late, ie - 12th grade or only in college to avoid burnout and improve happiness. I'm saying 12 is too young to focus on a single sport, that's fuckin crazy. Most kids haven't even hit puberty at that age. Kids should be testing themselves in multiple sports for as long as possible.

Kids who go year round with any sport burn out at very high rates. Kids who are 'forced' to do anything burn out at very high rates.

 

[ACamp1900]

Whoa, I should've expounded a little. The data suggests kids should continue playing multiple sports and not going to year round model until very late, ie - 12th grade or only in college to avoid burnout and improve happiness. I'm saying 12 is too young to focus on a single sport, that's fuckin crazy. Most kids haven't even hit puberty at that age. Kids should be testing themselves in multiple sports for as long as possible.

Kids who go year round with any sport burn out at very high rates. Kids who are 'forced' to do anything burn out at very high rates.

OH okay... well I only added the single sport thing because usually paying like three different sports naturally leads to playing year round. My focus was not going all year non stop by about that age... I just added the sport thing with poor wording...

 

[Rogue219]