I have followed a bit of this thread and have a few organized thoughts:
This thread capitalizes on the drama of an internal conflict with the "bad or dark side" of each of us. We want to believe in the worst in others. So people will launch verbal spears, to make themselves feel better, that are just pure nastiness. The second wave of this pattern is all of us recognizing this in the media, and training all of our "self-righteous indignation toward them." From there, the ripple effect continues outward. There is very little good, other than certain recognitions that can be made from this whole episode.
It doesn't matter if you use the word(s) conflation, or gossip, or the" how now brown cow effect". Almost everything to be said about this is spiteful, mean, and venomous. We can see it from other non ND sports fans, from the media, and even on this site, in this thread. I mean some of the stupid a$$, illogical leaps of stupidity I have seen, I find amazing. I guess it is because this situation violates so much of what people value in their existence . . . So, the reason I will have a ton of respect, offer my friendship forever, and call JimmyMac one of the best men I have ever met is because he more than almost anybody, has not inserted his own dysfunctional needs into the story, has not engaged in conjecture, only responding in a truthful manner. And his life probably puts him more in the middle than almost any other poster I have seen here. Keep it up Jimmy! I want to buy you a beer for our birthdays! Jack and Manti owe you a six-pack (at least) each!
LDS: People talk about the difference between the ideal and the actual with a sexually repressed church like Roman Catholicism, buy highlighting the "Madonna-Whore Complex." I recognize this is more of that which I described at the beginning of this post. But, I have known a fairly strong LDS community near where I live, particularly among medical residents, and I can think of a couple who were anything but sexually repressed in their private lives. In fact, these guys had more of a separation between their casual affairs that there private lives that most I knew. One pointed to the fact that his grandfather had seven wives, and that was how it was supposed to be, anyhow. So, the whole point of this is that idealized stereotypes have nothing to do with real life, or an incident like this.
Earlier, I told a story about how I felt myself getting sucked into an obviously fraudulent story, and had to a minor degree some of the emotional baggage of a "relationship" to deal with afterward. The point was I spotted this right away. I was 50+. When I was Manti's age I was busting prostitutes at Lindbergh Field who were targeting basic training graduates headed home for leave, and rolling them for their basic pay, and travel expenses. For goodness sake, I have built a healthy skepticism, and realize I am still venerable, and people cannot understand how someone like this could be gotten too? It is all about future earnings.
I brought up the "Pigeon Drop" for a reason. People are avaricious greedy mutherfockers. The best way to set a mark is to tempt him into doing something he wouldn't otherwise do, then you got him hooked for life. Hooked for life means lots of money (statistically speaking) from Manti.
That is why I would try to get the FBI involved, a hint of fraud across the wire, and they could be there. And they are good. I have seen it in two cases. They need to get hold of the kid RT, and sit on him. Hard. Then you will get the story, one way or another.
One final thing: These are just people(everyone involved including Manti) are just humans, everyone has got their problems, give everyone a break.