Fair point and honestly, I'm a bit disheartened.
I did not realize paternalism has taken on that meaning. I always thought paternalistic/paternalism was the effort to guide or direct someone in hopes of achieving the greatest possible outcome. No lie.
And a small diatribe: I hate how modern sentiments are resulting in catastrophic etymology. Everything related to the father figure is now viewed through the worst possible lens. Sorry for the mix-up, I didn't know the definition of the word I was arguing. No longer may you assume the Latin root-words associate as expected.
That's not the definition recently "taken on" at all. The definition I presented is old school John Stuart Mill...
"The only purpose for which power can be rightfully exercised over any member of a civilized community, against his will, is to prevent harm to others. His own good, either physical or moral, is not a sufficient warrant. He cannot rightfully be compelled to do or forbear because it will be better for him to do so, because it will make him happier, because, in the opinion of others, to do so would be wise, or even right." - On Liberty, John Stuart Mill
Also:
"The only freedom which deserves the name is that of pursuing our own good in our own way, so long as we do not attempt to deprive others of theirs, or impede their efforts to obtain it. Each is the proper guardian of his own health, whether bodily, or mental or spiritual. Mankind are greater gainers by suffering each other to live as seems good to themselves, than by compelling each to live as seems good to the rest.” - On Liberty, John Stuart Mill
[I was one credit away from a double major in History and Politics, so Mill was common reading for me...I totally get what you are saying though based on where you were going]
