Why women in their late 20s/30s lose the dating game

[irishpat183]

As a "highly educated woman with a professional career", I am truly curious as to what you mean by this...

ZING!!! Nice!!

 

[BGIF]

As a "highly educated woman with a professional career", I am truly curious as to what you mean by this...

Did you read his next sentence?

He noted it was an observation (based on his experience) and he futher noted that "a lot of highly educated" women are thought of more harshly than men with the same credentials and attitude, another personal observation.

 

[Quinntastic]

Yes, I read his entire post. Further, I wasn't upset with him, but I just wanted some more information on why he feels that way. Or possibly to get some speculation from him on what he thinks might be the cause of the "chip" he mentioned. I personally don't feel that I come off the way he mentions, but was interested in taking the conversation down that path and was simply asking a follow-up question to his post to move in that direction...

 

[rikkitikki08]

I am a big history buff and i recently read a story about John Basilone, he won the medal of honor in his first tour during WWII and while he was back in the states doing his "bond tour" he met his future wife. He volunteered to go back to active duty so he and the misses got married after a relatively short time dating. He ended up dying on Iwo Jima and if my memory serves me correctly it was their 6th week wedding anniversary. To make a long story short, she never remarried because she stated " when you have the best you don't want anything else".

Ill say this as eloquently as possible but they sure as hell dont make em like that any more

 

[ulukinatme]

I posted the article because I shared a number of similar experiences before I married my wife. I got married in my late 20s, but I was probably looking for someone to settle down with for 7 years before I found the right one and we tied the knot. I dated a number of girls, some for as long as 2-3 years. Several of the girls I dated in that time period were very driven by school or career. One wanted me to drop my steady, good paying job once she got her Master's and follow her across the country despite the fact she didn't have anything lined up (It was a dream or something). I wasn't anything other than average Joe at the time when I dated them, holding down a typical office job making median salary. Now in my early 30s I find a number of those same women are still looking for Mr. Right, and they've contacted me in recent years only to break off contact once they found out I'm married. Only one of them that I know is currently married, and she ended up marrying a much older man. You can see the regret with some of these girls. Obviously their current prospects aren't looking so good. Playing the field too long results in depreciating assets and a much smaller supply of decent suitors.

 

[ACamp1900]

ulu is married??? wow.

 

[ulukinatme]

ulu is married??? wow.

Yeah, married for...uhh...3 1/2 years now I guess (Had to think about that one for a bit ). Two kids, 2 1/2, 1, and another on the way (Last one for us I think).

 

[ACamp1900]

Yeah, married for...uhh...3 1/2 years now I guess (Had to think about that one for a bit ). Two kids, 2 1/2, 1, and another on the way (Last one for us I think).

Are any of them actually yours???

 

[ulukinatme]

Are any of them yours???

It's fairly certain The kids were giants like everyone in my family, they come out looking 3 months old or more. 95-99% in height/length. Daughter was 10 lbs 6 oz at birth, son was 11 lbs 4 oz I think, full heads of hair for both and they looked a lot like my baby photos. My son already has anger issues and destroys things, I'm hoping he plays on ND's line or is a TE in 17 years lol. I'm hoping my daughter takes to Volleyball or Basketball, she'll have the height for either.

 

[ACamp1900]

It's fairly certain The kids were giants like everyone in my family, they come out looking 3 months old or more. 95-99% in height/length. Daughter was 10 lbs 6 oz at birth, son was 11 lbs 4 oz I think, full heads of hair for both and they looked a lot like my baby photos. My son already has anger issues and destroys things, I'm hoping he plays on ND's line or is a TE in 17 years lol. I'm hoping my daughter takes to Volleyball or Basketball, she'll have the height for either.

Do you have any brothers???

 

[ulukinatme]

Do you have any brothers???

Yeah, I have one brother. I was 10 lbs, 12 oz when I came out. My brother was projected to be bigger than me, but he had to be taken early and ended up just a bit smaller. I'm 6'2", he's probably got half an inch on me. Why?\

[EDIT] nm, I'm a little slow, I just got that. Didn't make much sense to me because my brother seems to avoid women. We're not quite sure what the deal is, but on the rare occasions he does date it's rarely a long relationship. He has the anger/temper issues (Kind of like my son...wait a minute....). Wouldn't hit a woman, but the little things set him off and he'll split.

Yeah, not a /csb there

 

[ACamp1900]

Yeah, I have one brother. I was 10 lbs, 12 oz when I came out. My brother was projected to be bigger than me, but he had to be taken early and ended up just a bit smaller. I'm 6'2", he's probably got half an inch on me. Why?

I think I understand how you are married, have three kids 'of your own'... and yet are ranked something like 12th in the world in GTA online.......

 

[ulukinatme]

I think I understand how you are married, have three kids 'of your own'... and yet are ranked something like 12th in the world in GTA online.......

Haha, yeah, I keep some odd hours sometimes and "work from home" (I'm a good multitasker). That gives me a lot of leeway to play games sometimes. I haven't picked the game up since Monday though. It's starting to wane a bit after hitting Rank 100. That, and it's a busy week with the kids and Halloween.

 

[Bishop2b5]

Something I've observed over the years is that so many of the women in their 20's seem to think they'll always be the belle of the ball and have an endless stream of desirable guys begging for their attention. Their attitude seems to be, "OMG! I'm so pretty that I can get away with anything and there will always be a million guys who'll still want me."

Unfortunately for them, about the time they hit 30 and want to settle down, the guys are looking for something other than the smoking hot girl at the club who'll go home with them, and they find they're not so desirable after all. One woman I went to school with said a guy told her, "You were a fun date 5 years ago, but I'm not interested in marrying someone who's slept with half the guys in town. You should've cashed your chips in years ago when you were a 9. Now you're just a used up 6." Ouch! Cold, but there's some truth to that.

 

[ACamp1900]

I have run into a few of the really hot girls from college over the years... they tend to be one of two things, married and happy, for a while now... or single, beat up and a fraction of what they were...

 

[Bishop2b5]

I have run into a few of the really hot girls from college over the years... they tend to be one of two things, married and happy, for a while now... or single, beat up and a fraction of what they were...

Yeah, I've seen the same thing. So many of them overplay their hand and keep looking for Mr. Perfect instead of realizing they only have a limited amount of time to be the belle of the ball and find a good guy. It's a rude awakening for them when they realize they passed up a dozen good guys, the bloom is now off their rose, and all that's left are guys they don't want, or guys who definitely don't want them because of their pasts. They get to their 30's and find out the hard way that it's a buyer's market now and their fruit's a bit overripe.

 

[NDBoiler]

Yeah, I've seen the same thing. So many of them overplay their hand and keep looking for Mr. Perfect instead of realizing they only have a limited amount of time to be the belle of the ball and find a good guy. It's a rude awakening for them when they realize they passed up a dozen good guys, the bloom is now off their rose, and all that's left are guys they don't want, or guys who definitely don't want them because of their pasts. They get to their 30's and find out the hard way that it's a buyer's market now and their fruit's a bit overripe.

Winner for most metaphors used per line in a post.

 

[Bishop2b5]

Winner for most metaphors used per line in a post.

Yeah, about halfway through it I realized the record was in reach, so I went for it! lol

 

[ulukinatme]

Winner for most metaphors used per line in a post.

You weren't kidding, that was an impressive feat

 

[TheSunIsRising]

She blew you off, bro. But you're in med school and will be picking up dime pieces before you know it. Shrug it off. Later when you're rich and wearing scrubs all the time, she'll come crawling back...tell her she can come back...if she brings a friend.


Boom. IrishPat's guide to being a playa.

That didn't work so well for George on Seinfeld. Wait, your name is Scott is it??

 

[TheSunIsRising]

From Australia, but it could be just as applicable here. If not...I'll move to Australia

Why women lose the dating game

Not sure if it is catching on elsewhere, but educated women in Iowa are trying innovative approaches to get back in the dating game:

http://www.irishenvy.com/forums/1143362-post1.html

 

[Quinntastic]

Something I've observed over the years is that so many of the women in their 20's seem to think they'll always be the belle of the ball and have an endless stream of desirable guys begging for their attention. Their attitude seems to be, "OMG! I'm so pretty that I can get away with anything and there will always be a million guys who'll still want me."

Unfortunately for them, about the time they hit 30 and want to settle down, the guys are looking for something other than the smoking hot girl at the club who'll go home with them, and they find they're not so desirable after all. One woman I went to school with said a guy told her, "You were a fun date 5 years ago, but I'm not interested in marrying someone who's slept with half the guys in town. You should've cashed your chips in years ago when you were a 9. Now you're just a used up 6." Ouch! Cold, but there's some truth to that.

One of the very few perks of being a "fat chick" is that you don't tend to ever develop the attitude you are describing here. I was never the belle of the ball, nor did I ever think, "OMG! I'm so pretty...". In fact, it probably forces us "big girls" to actually develop a personality so we can even stay the least bit competitive in the dating scene. That comes in handy eventually, and gives you more attractive qualities for a man who is looking for a woman to settle down with.

 

[rikkitikki08]

A girl i dated recently got upset with me because i was not upset that she wasn't coming over. Let me say again, she was mad that i wasn't mad. Im 25 years old, aint no one got time for that.

I absolutely love women but my god she was cray cray

 

[ClausentoTate]

A girl i dated recently got upset with me because i was not upset that she wasn't coming over. Let me say again, she was mad that i wasn't mad. Im 25 years old, aint no one got time for that.

I absolutely love women but my god she was cray cray

After four years I still get the same thing from my girlfriend. I'm also 25. Seriously woman, give me my space.

 

[Bishop2b5]

One of the very few perks of being a "fat chick" is that you don't tend to ever develop the attitude you are describing here. I was never the belle of the ball, nor did I ever think, "OMG! I'm so pretty...". In fact, it probably forces us "big girls" to actually develop a personality so we can even stay the least bit competitive in the dating scene. That comes in handy eventually, and gives you more attractive qualities for a man who is looking for a woman to settle down with.

You are 100% correct! I can't imagine being married to someone with no brains or personality, regardless of their looks. That would be excruciatingly boring. The longer a relationship lasts, the less important looks are, but the more important personality and brains become.

 

[irishpat183]

A girl i dated recently got upset with me because i was not upset that she wasn't coming over. Let me say again, she was mad that i wasn't mad. Im 25 years old, aint no one got time for that.

I absolutely love women but my god she was cray cray

Thata boy.


at 25 I had already been dating my wife.....She wasn't cray. South African beauty with a great *** and cans, not cray? Marriage material.

 

[ulukinatme]

A girl i dated recently got upset with me because i was not upset that she wasn't coming over. Let me say again, she was mad that i wasn't mad. Im 25 years old, aint no one got time for that.

I absolutely love women but my god she was cray cray

lol, I dated a girl that was like that. One nasty winter I was hit in a pretty bad accident on the highway. I wasn't seriously injured, but it shook me up and totaled the car. I also ended up having back surgery two weeks later (Not due to the accident, just a coincidence).

Anyway, after a month of recovery roughly I had a new car and was scheduled to go see her at her college one night. It's a good 45 minute drive when the roads are in good shape, let alone in bad weather. Well, that particular night a nasty blizzard was sweeping through the area. I actually had trouble getting out of my development and at that point decided to nix the trip. When I told her how bad the roads were and I was afraid of getting stranded with my bad back, she went ballistic and wouldn't talk to me for several days Needless to say, it didn't last.

 

[rikkitikki08]

I think we can all agree that crazies are good for one thing and one thing only....ya know what im sayin??!?!?!?

 

[ulukinatme]

I think we can all agree that crazies are good for one thing and one thing only....ya know what im sayin??!?!?!?

Yeah, why is that? There definitely seems to be a direct correlation.

 

[Bishop2b5]

I think we can all agree that crazies are good for one thing and one thing only....ya know what im sayin??!?!?!?

NEVER sleep with a woman who is crazier than you! It may seem like a good idea at the time, but you'll regret it later!