Well we agree to disagree and most experts in this field agree with me and not you.
And ED drugs are definitely elective. You don't have to have erections and sex to be healthy
I don't believe you're actually correct about most experts in the healthcare field agreeing with your view. I think it's very common for us to spout the party line because nobody wants to get cancelled or deal with having to sit through endless HR sessions about tolerance and being more PC and sensitive. However, my personal experience with doctors, nurses, psychologists, and etc. is that a large majority believe it to be a psychological/psychiatric issue and a delusion, with no genuine medical or scientific validity.
I'm not anti-trans any more than I'm anti-cancer patients, or anti-diabetic patients, or anti-depressives.
I'm anti treating the symptoms and encouraging delusional behavior instead of treating the underlying cause. It does no good and is usually quite harmful to encourage a patient to believe in their delusions or to continue harmful behavior or telling them that the very obviously harmful effects of their behavior are completely fine and normal instead of telling them the truth and trying to get them to treat the causes of their problems. I don't treat alcoholics by telling them their drinking and attendant health issues are perfectly acceptable and normal. I don't just treat their injuries and sickness and tell myself I'm affirming their life choices. I do all I can to find out why they drink and encourage them to get help in order to stop. Same with a schizophrenic, e.g. I don't play along and pretend to hear the voices they hear or affirm the delusions they have. I do all I can to get them psychiatric help, into therapy, and on the right meds.
I have nothing against a person who believes he or she is a man or woman in the wrong body. I'm sure it's a miserable, unhappy feeling in many ways. I've treated such people and have a cousin who is trans, so I've seen the situation up close. However, there is absolutely no credible evidence to suggest that it's real and anything more than a mental health issue. Gender reassignment surgery, hormone treatment, and related procedures are treating the symptoms, not the disorder. I feel for you and others in this boat, but I would strongly encourage you to ask yourself if there's anything in your brain structure, your brain activity, your genes, or your physiology that suggest in any meaningful way that you're a woman. Transitioning won't make you an actual woman, and is very unlikely to make you happy or "cure what ails ya" in the long run. Instead, I'd strongly encourage you to seek therapy... not just to affirm you're a woman, but instead to try and understand why you want to be one and what underlying issues caused this.
I genuinely wish you the best and will gladly talk with you, listen to you, or help in any way I can. I would just encourage you to explore treating underlying causes instead of the resultant symptoms.