You, very understandably, see the issue from a narrow insider's point of view, not the way the majority of the public sees it. I realize that there is a lot to it and no single simple answer, but I can tell you that a LOT of the pushback towards trans people and trans ideology and all the rest that's involved stems from two things: pushing this on pre-pubescent children in the schools and in our culture (which is widely and strongly seen as trying to indoctrinate and encourage kids to claim they're trans) and men in women's sports. Those two things cost you about 99% of the support you might've had from the middle or the right. Without those two blunders, you've got support, or at worst, a shrug of the shoulders and being left alone.