BeauBenken's Fireside Chats

[tankjeep]

This.

And the funniest thing you will come to find, is that not divulging all of everything is happiness, contrary to popular thought.

It sounds like the girl is a friend. So honesty with her is warranted.

^agree to a degree. my wife is my best friend and i tell her everything.....no lie, i swear.

 

[Who'saWildManNow]

Close; but no (sometimes a) cigar (is just a ...).

Just invite the usual ne'er-do-well posters and all of the hotties that Kneutered, et al. have mentioned at one time or another.

I doubt, though, that anyone would look as good as I do in my high school swim team Speedo™. That includes Jessica Alba and any other babe-du-jour.

Until I show up in my high school wrestling singlet!!

 

[k1ssme1m1r1sh]

Where in the heck is Dowagiac? or however you spell it...

21 Miles north of the golden dome. Pool is 84 degrees and the Oberon is ice cold. My stupid space bar sticks, but you spelled it right...question is, can you pronounce it? It's a native american word for "hunting grounds".

 

[Rocket89]

No need to date or talk to women, just...

Nah, I'm a good guy. Don't take that advice.

 

[BeauBenken]

I'm a pretty open guy. No wonder why when I **** women off the get really, really pissed.

And my guess at Dowagiac pronunciation... Doe-wag-ee-ack.

 

[BeauBenken]

No need to date or talk to women, just...

Well and the thing is, I just got out of a serious relationship. Or in the end, MY part of the relationship was serious. And it's hard to see long lasting relationships with pretty much any of the girls I meet or already know. And now I'm off to college. And I like to consider myself a good guy and people usually say I am, but this is becoming more and more of a possibility. It's hard to be serious with most of the girls interested in me.

 

[k1ssme1m1r1sh]

I'm a pretty open guy. No wonder why when I **** women off the get really, really pissed.

And my guess at Dowagiac pronunciation... Doe-wag-ee-ack.

Close. Doe-wah-jack. Most people pronouce it the way you do. And trust me, women are TROUBLE! T-R-O-U-B-L-E! Stay away from them! haha, yes I know it sounds crazy coming from a girl, but I can't even be friends with women. Too much drama and they are weird. They spy on you, go through your phone, and email, just wicked they are. Plus, being single is way too much fun. I'm going on my third year of being single and I am having a blast. (no offense to anyone here who's married, or otherwise )

 

[tankjeep]

Close. Doe-wah-jack. Most people pronouce it the way you do. And trust me, women are TROUBLE! T-R-O-U-B-L-E! Stay away from them! haha, yes I know it sounds crazy coming from a girl, but I can't even be friends with women. Too much drama and they are weird. They spy on you, go through your phone, and email, just wicked they are. Plus, being single is way too much fun. I'm going on my third year of being single and I am having a blast. (no offense to anyone here who's married, or otherwise )

none taken.

i remember my single days, and yes....they were fun.

 

[k1ssme1m1r1sh]

none taken.

i remember my single days, and yes....they were fun.

Even though my friends and my mom think I'm a man hater, and anti marriage, I'm not. I did get married at 23 though, and survived domestic violence, so I am gun shy, but I've had lots and lots of time to observe men and women and how they interact, and it's rather frightening. haha.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Men and women can't be friends, Beau. "Casual" dating never ends well.

 

[tankjeep]

Even though my friends and my mom think I'm a man hater, and anti marriage, I'm not. I did get married at 23 though, and survived domestic violence, so I am gun shy, but I've had lots and lots of time to observe men and women and how they interact, and it's rather frightening. haha.

yes, it is. so i did the one thing i thought that i never would....signed up to eharmony. met my future wife and been married for 4 wonderful years and have a baby girl to boot.

and i know of more people (friends of mine) that have done the same thing.

 

[tankjeep]

Men and women can't be friends, Beau. "Casual" dating never ends well.

i disagree.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

i disagree.

If a man and woman share a genuine connection with one another, romantic feelings are bound to spring up for one of them. As soon as that happens, friendship isn't possible anymore.

I assume your disagreement is based on some example from your own life. I'd be interested to hear what it is.

 

[BeauBenken]

I think Whiskey means JUST friends. And I have good friends who are girls...I've just happened to date them before though.

And why did I wake up with this song playing in my head?
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My only guess would be that I watched a That 70s Show where they went to a Ted Nugent concert. Although in the episode there was no mention of "Stranglehold".

 

[BeauBenken]

yes, it is. so i did the one thing i thought that i never would....signed up to eharmony. met my future wife and been married for 4 wonderful years and have a baby girl to boot.

and i know of more people (friends of mine) that have done the same thing.

I remember one time me and my friend who was sleeping over (I was about 12) started to make a profile for me. We gave up. We had spent over an hour at it and we were less than half way done making the profile. They must get pretty specific.

Btw, does your wife love football? and/or Notre Dame football?

I might have to go to Texas to find my perfect girl.

 

[tankjeep]

If a man and woman share a genuine connection with one another, romantic feelings are bound to spring up for one of them. As soon as that happens, friendship isn't possible anymore.

I assume your disagreement is based on some example from your own life. I'd be interested to hear what it is.

i've had girls/woman thru out my life that i was very good friends with and while i agree that the romantic feelings can creep up, we were mature enough to realize that our friendship was more important.

but i'm not going to pretend that what you said doesn't happen, cuz i've been on the other end of that spectrum that supports your statement.

i think a friendship between a man and woman can exist.

 

[tankjeep]

I remember one time me and my friend who was sleeping over (I was about 12) started to make a profile for me. We gave up. We had spent over an hour at it and we were less than half way done making the profile. They must get pretty specific.

Btw, does your wife love football? and/or Notre Dame football?

I might have to go to Texas to find my perfect girl.

yes, my wife does loves football, da bears and notre dame. she adopted them after we got together. we've been to a bears game, but not a notre dame game....yet.

i've been twice but that was before i met her. our plan is for us & our lil girl to go in the next few years or so when our baby girl is grown a bit where she can appreciate it.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

i've had girls/woman thru out my life that i was very good friends with and while i agree that the romantic feelings can creep up, we were mature enough to realize that our friendship was more important.

I would question the sincerity of a friendship in which one or both sides is repressing romantic feelings. Even if both sides have the best of intentions, that can't be a very fulfilling relationship for the person wanting more, no?

but i'm not going to pretend that what you said doesn't happen, cuz i've been on the other end of that spectrum that supports your statement.

i think a friendship between a man and woman can exist.

I don't think we're really disagreeing here.

For instance, I've also been married for about four years. Virtually all of my female "friends" are 1/2 of a couple with whom my wife and I enjoy socializing. My entire relationship with such women is defined as couple to couple; I would probably never go out to eat or catch a movie with any of them alone, not just to avoid the appearance of impropriety, but because it's simply outside the bounds of our relationship.

Every time I've ever been caught up in "friendship" with a female, romantic feelings on at least one side made sure it was anything but, and I've witnessed it again and again among my friends and family. I'm willing to accept that exceptions might exist, but I'd suggest they're rare.

Long story short, as general advice, if you find yourself in a "friendship" situation with a member of the opposite sex, you should probably extricate yourself from the relationship as gracefully as possible; such situations almost always end poorly.

 

[tankjeep]

I would question the sincerity of a friendship in which one or both sides is repressing romantic feelings. Even if both sides have the best of intentions, that can't be a very fulfilling relationship for the person wanting more, no?



I don't think we're really disagreeing here.
For instance, I've also been married for about four years. Virtually all of my female "friends" are 1/2 of a couple with whom my wife and I enjoy socializing. My entire relationship with such women is defined as couple to couple; I would probably never go out to eat or catch a movie with any of them alone, not just to avoid the appearance of impropriety, but because it's simply outside the bounds of our relationship.

Every time I've ever been caught up in "friendship" with a female, romantic feelings on at least one side made sure it was anything but, and I've witnessed it again and again among my friends and family. I'm willing to accept that exceptions might exist, but I'd suggest they're rare.

Long story short, as general advice, if you find yourself in a "friendship" situation with a member of the opposite sex, you should probably extricate yourself from the relationship as gracefully as possible; such situations almost always end poorly.

yes.

and i especially agree with not going out to eat or to a movie with one of my women friends.

in my single days, it was much easier to maintain a friendship with a female. being married, i wouldn't really even think about it. now when i say friendships with women, it's both my wife and i's friendship. if that makes sense.

 

[k1ssme1m1r1sh]

yes, it is. so i did the one thing i thought that i never would....signed up to eharmony. met my future wife and been married for 4 wonderful years and have a baby girl to boot.

and i know of more people (friends of mine) that have done the same thing.

Ha ha, it is funny you mention that. My son is 7 yrs old and a few months ago he came into the kitchen and he said, "Hey mom you know they go this thing called eharmony.com, and you can find HOT guys there." I asked him why he thought I needed a boyfriend and he said so I can have someone to take out the trash and mow the lawn. Haha!

 

[dshans]

I asked him why he thought I needed a boyfriend and he said so I can have someone to take out the trash and mow the lawn. Haha!

There it is in a nutshell ... the boy is clearly wise beyond his years!

 

[tankjeep]

There it is in a nutshell ... the boy is clearly wise beyond his years!

and smart.....

he's looking for someone else to take on chores no kid wants to do.

 

[BeauBenken]

New theme.

Monty Python and the Holy Grail.

I guess I'm Arthur.

 

[military_irish]

New theme.

Monty Python and the Holy Grail.

I guess I'm Arthur.

What's your favorite color?

 

[NankerPhelge]

New theme.

Monty Python and the Holy Grail.

I guess I'm Arthur.

I guess I'm one of the cocunuts that makes the horse noises.

 

[BeauBenken]

I guess I'm one of the cocunuts that makes the horse noises.

You could be Patsy!

 

[Whiskeyjack]

WHAT... is the capital of Assyria?

 

[Who'saWildManNow]

You must cut down this tree with... A herring!

 

[TerryTate]

 

[Whiskeyjack]

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