I really like this kid and it sounds like he's a fit at ND. However, I seriously have to question any kid that is putting Ole Miss as his leader or close to and how those values/morals apply to ND. Polar opposites. Especially with the recent events of their best players. What type of people do you want to surround yourself with?
Why does a college decision impact what type of person you are? Sure, getting a degree is nice, but for 95% of these kids, they are going to college to get to the NFL and not a degree. That is the career path they have chosen. I went to college to gain further education and to get a job in finance, however, these kids are going to school to further their football games and have a shot at making the NFL.
Sure, Ole Miss is going through a lot of negative press right now, but they aren't the only school in the country that pays their players and gives them benefits against NCAA rules.
Smith can go to Ole Miss and get on the field quicker at Ole Miss than Notre Dame, much less he can have the Southern lifestyle in Oxford. Comfort is a big factor when it comes to kids from South especially. Notre Dame is a fit for Smith and he saw that when he visited, but how does he like being possibly being the only black OL in the room when Mustipher leaves? How does he adjust to a different atmosphere of living than what he is used to?
That is the stuff that gives Alabama, Ole Miss and Clemson an advantage over Notre Dame. From all accounts, he has a great relationship with Kraemer and Boudreaux, so that's a plus for Notre Dame, but is it better than the other relationships he has with players at other schools?
The other fact is that you're going to have to sit longer at Notre Dame than most schools. It's going to be tough to come in and get playing time your first two seasons at Notre Dame with the quality of depth Hiestand has built. Some prospects like the chance to develop, while others would love the opportunity to compete early. It's not a "Oh, this kid is scared to compete" situation, but it's just a fact of how good Hiestand has recruited the OL.
I personally just feel that what you said isn't a fair statement about the kid. I'm not trying to say you're wrong or anything, but there is a lot more to take into consideration than "Why would a ND kid choose to play at Ole Miss" than the stuff that happens at every school.