I think you have to separate "Do I respect Charlie Weis?", from "Is Charlie Weis an elite coach?"
From what I have seen of Weis, I have great respect for him. He hasn't made excuses, he's quick to take responsibility for the poor performance of the team, and he seems to really embrace the ideals of the University. If you have watched his pressers over the years, you have to respect that the guy knows football. Maybe some could argue that he lacks the ability to apply that knowledge to Saturday afternoon games, in an elite way. But the guy knows football. There have been many times that I have wondered why he did, or didn't, make some adjustment, or attack an opponent in a certain manner. More often than not, when he would explain in the presser, it made perfect sense to me. Weis is a good guy. Having said that, I realize that being a great guy, and a mediocre coach, is not good enough at ND. But, I think he is figuring things out. I seriously doubt that Lou Holtz was an elite coach, in those first years at William and Mary. But he was able to go through the learning curve, without all of the national media attention. By the time he got to ND, he was towards the top of the curve. Weis didn't have the "luxury" of making the rookie head coach mistakes at a relatively obscure school. I think he has handled the media and their pressure well. He still is able to laugh with, and at, the reporters at the pressers. And they (the reporters) seem to genuinely enjoy him.
I think he is also starting to become a better coach. Maybe he will not peak in the Holtz/Parseghian/Leahy stratosphere. But look at the Washington game:
Everyone knew that ND was going to be looking for Golden Tate to carry the offense in this game. And everyone knew that Washington would be throwing the house at Tate, to keep the ball out of his hands. So Charlie was tasked with finding ways to get the ball to Tate. It was Charlie's "decided schematic advantage" vs. Washington's "everything but the kitchen sink" approach. The result? A record day for Golden Tate. Tate played a great game, and made the most of every touch, so I'm not taking anything away from him. But it was Charlie's offensive game plan that put him in a position to succeed, in the first place.