Strong Men Cry Too.

[dshans]

Needless to say, do you understand how hard it is to find a strawberry rhubarb pie at 1AM?

What? No 24 hour "Pies R Us" that deliver in your neck of the woods???

 

[Irish#1]

My wife woke me up one night at 12:30 and said she was craving a Strawberry Rhubarb pie. I was like "thats nice" and proceeded to go back to sleep.

Needless to say, do you understand how hard it is to find a strawberry rhubarb pie at 1AM?

Been there. lol

My wife had the audacity to have one of our sons on January 1, 1981. She went into labor the evening before, but didn't deliver until the afternoon causing me to miss the first half of the Sugar Bowl.

 

[dshans]

My wife had the audacity to have one of our sons on January 1, 1981. She went into labor the evening before, but didn't deliver until the afternoon causing me to miss the first half of the Sugar Bowl.

And you had no part in this?

Me lad was born on the 27th of July. Kind of a dead zone in sports. Well, except for baseball.

I missed a few Twins games, but at least he was "portable" when it came time to see the Twinks win the Series (for the first time) in 1987.

He blithely absorbed the oohs, aahs, cheek tweaks and numerous "He's soooo cutes" at a friend's party pre final game and then slept soundly during the game, in spite of the noise.

 

[eNDzone]

My wife has always been very proactive during her pregnancies. One thing a pregnant woman needs to do is make sure she is taking vitamins. Moodiness can be exacerbated by a deficiency in vitamin B and iron. My wife seemed to eat better foods for her during her pregnancies. It helps when a woman sees the baby on the way as a blessing and a responsibility. The old saying " I am eating for two now" is not quantity but quality. I understand that this won't fix all of the problem but it could help quite a bit. By the way we have 9 wounderful children and I wouldn't trade one of them for the world.

 

[Irish Insanity]

My wife has always been very proactive during her pregnancies. One thing a pregnant woman needs to do is make sure she is taking vitamins. Moodiness can be exacerbated by a deficiency in vitamin B and iron. My wife seemed to eat better foods for her during her pregnancies. It helps when a woman sees the baby on the way as a blessing and a responsibility. The old saying " I am eating for two now" is not quantity but quality. I understand that this won't fix all of the problem but it could help quite a bit. By the way we have 9 wounderful children and I wouldn't trade one of them for the world.

Almost enough to field a football team. Don't stop now

 

[no.1IrishFan]

This thread is exactly what I needed. Lol
Thanks for the advice, guys!

 

[dshans]

Almost enough to field a football team. Don't stop now.

Enough for a baseball team. Barring injury and assuming a pitcher able to go the distance.


Coaching may be a weak point though. You gotta know the "hold up" signal and stop!!!

 

[eNDzone]

Almost enough to field a football team. Don't stop now

On to Grandchildren now.

 

[Irish#1]

My wife has always been very proactive during her pregnancies. One thing a pregnant woman needs to do is make sure she is taking vitamins. Moodiness can be exacerbated by a deficiency in vitamin B and iron. My wife seemed to eat better foods for her during her pregnancies. It helps when a woman sees the baby on the way as a blessing and a responsibility. The old saying " I am eating for two now" is not quantity but quality. I understand that this won't fix all of the problem but it could help quite a bit. By the way we have 9 wounderful children and I wouldn't trade one of them for the world.

On to Grandchildren now.

It took you nine before you figured out what was causing it? lol

In all seriousness, congrats there daddy. Never a dull moment! The G-kids are even better.

 

[BGIF]

This thread is exactly what I needed. Lol
Thanks for the advice, guys!

Now that you've got gestation understood, start working on menopause. It will be here sooner than you think ... about the time you've got algebra homework in hand with the last kid.

About 10 years ago my wife dragged me to see a musical on tour. She also took 4 generations of women in her family ranging in age from 18 to 88. I wasn't told the title, only that it would be a revelation and therapeutic for my battered and bewildered middle aged psyche.

I was the only guy in at theatre of 500 women. After 90 minutes I was physically exhausted from rollicking laughter and tears of joy (I wasn't crazy) streaming down my face. Four middle aged women from different walks of life, an Oprah like Power Woman, a stereotype G.O.P. Iowa housewife, a dshans dream girl, Earth Woman, and a fading Soap Opera Star, go to a department store sale and commiserate over the tribulations of change of life from periodically fertile to chronically uncomfortable and irritable.

"Menopause The Musiscal" changes the lyrics from rock tunes of the '50's, '60s, '70s and '80s to parody hot flashes, forgetfulness, mood swings, wrinkles, night sweats, chocolate binges and the woefully baffled men in their life.

It's funny and an eye opener to the handful of men that have seen it. The Church needs to augment the Pre-Cana Conference curriculum to include Pregnancy Survival Training and "Change, Change, Change"!

 

[Bogtrotter07]

And you had no part in this?

Me lad was born on the 27th of July. Kind of a dead zone in sports. Well, except for baseball.

I missed a few Twins games, but at least he was "portable" when it came time to see the Twinks win the Series (for the first time) in 1987.

He blithely absorbed the oohs, aahs, cheek tweaks and numerous "He's soooo cutes" at a friend's party pre final game and then slept soundly during the game, in spite of the noise.

My youngest was born during Super Bowl 40; Steelers vs. Seahawks, exactly when the Bus was running the ball (3 or 4 times in a row) in the Steelers opening drive. It was a sign from God. Didn't watch a play until mom was ready to knock out, afterwards. Then they wrapped the little guy up, and the nurses all thought it was fun that daddy and the little shaver were watching their first game together. Icing on the cake was that a young receiver from Toledo was starting his first game. Nate Washington, Jr., ended up moving in two doors down about a year later. He always liked us. Used to have a picture with little B as a baby with a Super Bowl ring on, holding a miniature of the Lombardi Trophy that the Rooneys made for each team member. Still have the "Baby Bettis" jersey!

 

[ulukinatme]

My youngest was born during Super Bowl 40; Steelers vs. Seahawks, exactly when the Bus was running the ball (3 or 4 times in a row) in the Steelers opening drive. It was a sign from God. Didn't watch a play until mom was ready to knock out, afterwards. Then they wrapped the little guy up, and the nurses all thought it was fun that daddy and the little shaver were watching their first game together. Icing on the cake was that a young receiver from Toledo was starting his first game. Nate Washington, Jr., ended up moving in two doors down about a year later. He always liked us. Used to have a picture with little B as a baby with a Super Bowl ring on, holding a miniature of the Lombardi Trophy that the Rooneys made for each team member. Still have the "Baby Bettis" jersey!

That's a pretty awesome story! My first and only pro game was the Steelers vs. the Bengals in the playoffs that year, the game where Carson Palmer went down with the knee injury. I was just there to watch Bettis for the first and last time. I didn't really have any affinity for the Steelers other than that, nor did I care about the Bengals. Don't think I'll be back in Cincinnati as an opposing fan anytime soon, that was bad news.

 

[Bogtrotter07]

Here is the really awesome story. Just for perspective. In January, #5 was born, (fifth grandchild). I shared what it was like watching a preemie in her incubator, born 5 weeks early, the size my hand and wrist.



Voilà! #5 at seven going on eight months!

This is what strong men appreciate!

 

[BobD]

My wife has always been very proactive during her pregnancies. One thing a pregnant woman needs to do is make sure she is taking vitamins. Moodiness can be exacerbated by a deficiency in vitamin B and iron. My wife seemed to eat better foods for her during her pregnancies. It helps when a woman sees the baby on the way as a blessing and a responsibility. The old saying " I am eating for two now" is not quantity but quality. I understand that this won't fix all of the problem but it could help quite a bit. By the way we have 9 wounderful children and I wouldn't trade one of them for the world.

Don't you mean 8 children and a frog?

 

[Irish#1]

Here is the really awesome story. Just for perspective. In January, #5 was born, (fifth grandchild). I shared what it was like watching a preemie in her incubator, born 5 weeks early, the size my hand and wrist.



Voilà! #5 at seven going on eight months!

This is what strong men appreciate!

She's gorgeous Bogs! Going to break a lot of hearts down the road!

I'd rep ya, but I can't.

 

[Irish#1]

Now that you've got gestation understood, start working on menopause. It will be here sooner than you think ... about the time you've got algebra homework in hand with the last kid.

About 10 years ago my wife dragged me to see a musical on tour. She also took 4 generations of women in her family ranging in age from 18 to 88. I wasn't told the title, only that it would be a revelation and therapeutic for my battered and bewildered middle aged psyche.

I was the only guy in at theatre of 500 women. After 90 minutes I was physically exhausted from rollicking laughter and tears of joy (I wasn't crazy) streaming down my face. Four middle aged women from different walks of life, an Oprah like Power Woman, a stereotype G.O.P. Iowa housewife, a dshans dream girl, Earth Woman, and a fading Soap Opera Star, go to a department store sale and commiserate over the tribulations of change of life from periodically fertile to chronically uncomfortable and irritable.

"Menopause The Musiscal" changes the lyrics from rock tunes of the '50's, '60s, '70s and '80s to parody hot flashes, forgetfulness, mood swings, wrinkles, night sweats, chocolate binges and the woefully baffled men in their life.

It's funny and an eye opener to the handful of men that have seen it. The Church needs to augment the Pre-Cana Conference curriculum to include Pregnancy Survival Training and "Change, Change, Change"!

Damn BGIF, let him get through this before you hit him with menopause. That's like telling the guy he's going to be fighting the VietNam war all over again! lol

 

[Quinntastic]

As, I believe, IE's only currently posting female who has had a child, I can shed a little light on this. But only a little, because just like many things, no two pregnancies are ever alike. Even with the same woman, pregnancies with her own children will be as different as if they were carried by two different women.

First, the first trimester is, in my opinion, the worst trimester for one reason and one reason alone: morning sickness. And it really should be called "any time sickness" because that's when it hits. Any. Frickin. Time. I was eating some graham crackers once and was feeling absolutely 100% and then, I shit you not, not 10 seconds later I had this overwhelming feeling I was going to vomit and had to make a mad dash for the bathroom. And this was a daily. occurrence. Any time of day. I had no idea when the feeling was going to strike or for how long. Some meals went off without a hitch. Some were disasterous for me later. Morning sickness is the. worst.

2.) None of the men here are overexaggerating. The hormones are absolutely horrible. I know how horrible it must be for you to have no idea when her mood is going to turn, but I can assure you it's just as scary for her because women don't get a sign when their mood is about to change either. And especially for a first pregnancy, it can be really scary for a woman to no longer have control over her emotions. And it really does change like a flip of a lightswitch. And we have no control over it or any more idea than you do when it's going to strike. And, if it makes you feel any better, she is probably somewhat aware of how unfair/scary/psycho she is acting and is probably scared on top of all of it that those crazy hormones/mood swings are going to push you away and you will leave her.

My advice? Muster every ounce of patience you can - reassure her, often, how great she's doing and how, even though she is being a little moody sometimes, you're going to stick with her and she's not going to scare you off. There's a LOT of emotions going on right now and you getting caught up in them is only going to make her get scared and her moods will start swinging even more.

Hope that helped. It probably didn't, haha.

 

[no.1IrishFan]

As, I believe, IE's only currently posting female who has had a child, I can shed a little light on this. But only a little, because just like many things, no two pregnancies are ever alike. Even with the same woman, pregnancies with her own children will be as different as if they were carried by two different women.

First, the first trimester is, in my opinion, the worst trimester for one reason and one reason alone: morning sickness. And it really should be called "any time sickness" because that's when it hits. Any. Frickin. Time. I was eating some graham crackers once and was feeling absolutely 100% and then, I shit you not, not 10 seconds later I had this overwhelming feeling I was going to vomit and had to make a mad dash for the bathroom. And this was a daily. occurrence. Any time of day. I had no idea when the feeling was going to strike or for how long. Some meals went off without a hitch. Some were disasterous for me later. Morning sickness is the. worst.

2.) None of the men here are overexaggerating. The hormones are absolutely horrible. I know how horrible it must be for you to have no idea when her mood is going to turn, but I can assure you it's just as scary for her because women don't get a sign when their mood is about to change either. And especially for a first pregnancy, it can be really scary for a woman to no longer have control over her emotions. And it really does change like a flip of a lightswitch. And we have no control over it or any more idea than you do when it's going to strike. And, if it makes you feel any better, she is probably somewhat aware of how unfair/scary/psycho she is acting and is probably scared on top of all of it that those crazy hormones/mood swings are going to push you away and you will leave her.

My advice? Muster every ounce of patience you can - reassure her, often, how great she's doing and how, even though she is being a little moody sometimes, you're going to stick with her and she's not going to scare you off. There's a LOT of emotions going on right now and you getting caught up in them is only going to make her get scared and her moods will start swinging even more.

Hope that helped. It probably didn't, haha.

It absolutely helped, it's great to have a woman's perspective.
Thank you.

 

[ulukinatme]

Well said, Quin. I'd rep you again, but I just did.

You have to remember what your wife was before the pregnancy, and pray that everything balances back out once the child comes. Just remember that you both will probably lose some sleep after the baby comes and that can affect moods too...and probably more so for her as she could be up more often than you.