GoIrish41 - what's your take on my example above. Nature vs Nurture, entitlement vs I will not fail and take what's mine,,,,, interested in your thoughts specifically on the example.
And if you agree people of all races capable of making both good and bad choices, why does it become society's burden when they make bad ones. And why does it become it become the responsibility of the people making good choices to bear the financial burden.
I think there a lot of different kinds of people in the world.
The Steve Jobs types are going to succeed no matter what. They could start life buried in a pile of sh*t and they are going to make it to the top no matter what.
The overachiever type are not necessarily a shoe-in for success, they are certainly predisposed to it. They want to be the Steve Jobs type and will spend their lives striving to be. They will be successful in life because they will be workaholics. Succeeding is very important to them and if they can do it without any help, their success is all the sweeter. I suspect this is where you would fall after reading your biographical posts a while back.
The average Joes make up the vast majority of folks, in my view. These folks make up the great middle class. They are not afraid of hard work, but they value their free time as well. Family is more important to these folks than the types above, maybe because they know they don't have a shot at being an overachiever and being Steve Jobs is an absolute pipe dream.
The slackers may have all kinds of potential, but they are just not interested in the heavy lifting that could convert that potential to anything like real success. We all know folks like these -- the ones who borrow money from their family members and never pay it back. More interested in living the lifestyle of the middle class, or better yet the overachievers, than thinking about the possibility of working toward it. These are the people in your life that at some time or another are going to ask to sleep on your couch. They are characterized by the bad decisions they make trying to live a lifestyle they didn't earn.
The snakebit are those who may have potential but good old fashioned bad luck seems to get in the way more often than not. This is the guy who decided in 2007 to fulfill a lifelong dream and open up a diner on main street, only to have his dreams dashed on the financial rocks by the recession in 08. They are willing to work hard, and if life was fair, they would be upper middle class or even overachievers, but they learn that life is just not fair ... not for them anyway.
The doomed are those who are born at the bottom of a dry well and no matter how hard they try they are unlikely to dig their way out. They will work hard and want very much to support their families. They don't want to take help or handouts and are truly embarassed that they have to. They are defeated. They may be able to do better financially if they don't work and collect welfare, but they are too proud for that. Eternal optimists, they are certain that if they continue to work hard they will get out of that hole. A few make it. Sounds like your parents might have been those exceptional few who do. But, must don't so they go through life and put up with a lot of insults despite their hard work. I think this is the vast majority of the poor in this country.
The societal drains. These people started out in the same well as the doomed but they are content to wait for everyone else to throw support down to them. They couldn't be bothered to try to scratch and dig like the proud doomed do. These are the folks who I think you describe when you talk about bad choices and being entitled. I don't disagree with that, but I think I would disagree with you about how many of social drains there are. I think there are relatively few -- maybe 2 or 3 pecent, maybe less. It is unfortunate that you cannot get to the doomed with much needed and much deserved help without having to take care of these folks too.
People can always make choices. That is part of the equasion. But, another part is opportunity. The degree to which the doomed work every bit as hard as the overachievers, but their footing in the beginning of the race makes all the difference.
Sorry for the long-winded reply, but it really isn't a simple question to answer in my view.