Of all the ignorant crap that's been posted in this thread, your stance on Trayvon's parents tops the list in both categories.
Worse than your (repeated) declaration that we were the clear leader for Andrew Williams on that thread? I think not.
Were they the "best in the world"? I'm pretty confident they were not. Were they "HORRIBLE" as you've said on multiple occasions? I'm pretty confident anyone making this claim, and to date you're basically the only person I've heard say it, is acting in ignorance and has very little regard for how difficult it is to parent in today's society.
A. You need to pay attention more. LOTS of people have been saying it.
B. I know exactly how difficult it is to raise a child in today's world. Raising one myself, and I practically raised my goddaughter (with her mom) when her deadbeat dad left her when she was 3. She's now 22 and a productive member of society. I gave up a lot of my nights when I was in college making sure she was doing the right thing...she lived in the projects in Boyle Heights, a subdivision of East L.A. with temptations all around her. She HATED me a lot of times because of the discipline and tough love we had to show. But in the end it was all love because it had to be done.
So take your 'confidence' and stick it somewhere else.
Parenting is real easy when all you have to do is change soiled diapers and stick a bottle in their mouth when they're hungry,
Holy crap, talk about ignorance.
but once they're out in the real world and there are other factors at play, it's impossible to hold their hand 24/7 and shut out all negative influences.
Yup. Agreed 1000%. Wish you would have read my posts more clearly.
If it were up to you, Trayvon would not have been allowed to talk on the phone, go online, watch TV, go outside, go to the store, come right home from school, etc.
You damn right...however, I would have tried to nip it in the bud A LOT sooner. And if it didn't work, then more and more would be taken away until he got the message. You want to eff up your life and still live in our house, then these are the rules.
Seriously...kid gets suspended multiple times for drugs and theft and you'd let him be online and have his iphone and hang out and go to the store and buy items used for drugs, as if it's his right? Well, that's your stance and that's fine, but that's how you get a kid with TM's problems - problems that only get worse because of enabling parents.
So, he would have been sent to his room for 16 hours a day with no communication to the outside world. At the same time you would have been able to hold down a full-time job and disciplined his a$$ until he showed no signs of disobedience. Did I get that right?
Nope, he wouldn't be in his roo...he'd be with his family, whether that's just dad or mom and dad and siblings. Reading, playing games, talking, watching TV together (depending on the severity of the punishment)...whatever. But he won't be alone, that's for sure. LOTS of parents work full-time jobs and have kids who grow up in tough neighborhoods and still have responsible kids. I worked in the ghetto/barrio for 19 years; I've seen it with my own eyes plenty of times. It's not even about showing no signs of disobedience - you're missing the entire point of it all. It's about learning from your mistakes and trying to do your best. And when you mess up, know you're still loved, and know that there are consequences for your actions.
My child(ren) is going to mess up A LOT. I know that (unless she's like her mom, who was is basically a saint). It will be about how we handle those mistakes as her parents, and how she responds to those mistakes.
I'm not going to make a case for them being good or bad parents because I simply do not have the information to back either of those arguments up. I could assume many things, but you know what they say about assuming...you've done a good job of proving the first part of that is true.
Ooooohhh, lucky I'm not bogs; I'd be screaming personal attack and try to have you basically arrested.
Anyway though, after reading your thoughts on Andrew Williams, I guess you could say I learned from the best.
Edit: And I've stated, I realize its insensitive and just don't give a crap at all. Sue me. And coming from you, it's kinda funny that you would complain about insensitivity.