I think I understand what you are saying. I think you are saying that it would not be all warm and fuzzy, sitting by a campfire and singing koom-bye-ya (I have no idea how to spell that so I went with what I had). In that instance, no, I, as an 18 to 22 year old would not always like the atmosphere. However, Coach Kelly is there to do his best to bring this program back to prominence. His style is coarse. His methods tough. His results so far, pretty good. Is Notre Dame where we, the fans, want it to be? Of course not. But it sure beats where we had fallen. The athletes on this team are some of the brightest young minds in the world. The ones that were there know, while his methods are different, they will produce. The athletes he is bringing aboard are coming in knowing his ways and are going all in. I do not know Joe. I have read both good and bad on him. He is a father first. I respect him for that. I am just guessing, but probably Nate didn't like the harshness Coach Kelly directs at his Qb's. Nate probably felt picked on because NO ONE had ever talked to him like that. He, like most other kids, called dad when he was upset. All dads know the truth gets stretched a little when our kids are trying to get a little "sugar tit" (a Mississippi saying for sympathy) from the folks. If that was the case, I think Joe gave a very respectful answer. He didn't blast ND. He simply said it wasn't a good time. How could he jump at the idea of joining ND when lil Nate is still sniffling. Just my two cents. Not worth much as I am currently on a Morphine drip. (I was doing honey-do's last week & fell off the ladder. Had spinal fusion a few months ago & it broke everything in my lower back. Luckily it knocked me out, so I didn't move. I woke up last night to find out that we lost Saturday night. Oh yeah, and that there is a chance of some paralysis.)