You are the problem with America. You are probably the one handing out participation trophies to kids on teams who finished 8th in your local Pop Warner football league. BK's job at ND is to win football games, not be the players' #1 cheerleader or best friend. You are right, South Bend isn't West Point, Annapolis, or Colorado Springs. Those are places where mentally strong men and women are, who are giving up everything to serve their county.
BK's actions are fine. This is football, not soccer. Like another poster said previously, if you can't take the heat of playing at Notre Dame, go somewhere else. Clearly, this is what Shaq Evans, and Joseph Fauria did, by choosing UCLA. Let's be honest, no one really cares if you win or lose there, just give the alums something to do before basketball starts.
At some point in time (Hopefully in the near future), society will begin punishing people for their mistakes. Until that happens, I'm sure you'll be on the sidelines ready to give TJ and Theo some fruit snacks and HI-C after their litany of mistakes.
BTW, do you really think Saban, D'Antonio, The Ole' Ball Coach, Sark, Mike Gundy, Bo Pelini, or Bobby Petrino don't lay in to their players?
Bo Pelini Not Happy - YouTube