Notre Dame Football Saved My Life

[Óglaigh_na_hÉireann]

I'm sobbing as I type this really..

Anyway, I've had a bad week- a bad year, really.... a bad two years... I suppose. I've had a lot of personal troubles over this time, some of which re-occured in just the past 4 or 5 days.. And this entire day I had been planning on ending it. I had a couple of beers at the ready, a percoset, and a long knife; I intended to stab myself in the heart twice, like my favorite singer Elliott Smith did. I came surprisingly close to doing it... the determination was definitely there.

But I had Charlie Weis' show on... and seeing him and the guys interviewed about the Michigan game and about next week at MSU got me thinking: this would be one of the things I missed, Notre Dame football - watching the games every Saturday, actually going to a few with my cousins.... and then, it brought back all the other things I'd miss, my brother and sister, my friends, all that nice stuff.

And no, I'm not pity-mongering, that's the last thing I need...Anyway, this is dedicated to those fucking ass-holes who say that subway alum don't care about anything about the university other than that its football team entertain them on Saturdays.

And yes, I'm drinking those beers anyway, just for the hell of it, even if it is a Tuesday, LOL!!!; heritage matters.

 

[Irish Envy]

Woah! I know how it can suck to feel like the World is against you and things just can't seem to go right. That's been the story of my life, too... but just keep on keepin' on. Seriously though, keep your head up and things will work themselves out.

 

[Óglaigh_na_hÉireann]

Yeah, i'm officially the "weird" guy on the site now, lol. But i've had girl-problems like noone would ever know, among other things, that I cannot specify, but let's jkust say that the 60s generation could relate... and i've had other problems, too.. I don't want it to sound like I'm emo, either, I'm not. The last thing people would expect from me si that i',m suicidial, and i guess, i am, a bit.. i can't deny it. But things change.

Religion helps a bit, too, I suppose.

 

[LOVEMYIRISH]

You are young my friend...and I will tell you that while once I had doubts about my future (at your age actually) I find myself happier than ever. Life is what you make it. Make it the best you can...

And bumps will be on your road. It sucks for that moment, but 1 mile down it's like they never were there.

I have gone through more than a couple girls, had one break my heart, and I broke another's. Looking back, I really was better for the experience...it taught me about myself and how to keep moving forward.

Take care of yourself man...and remember all Irish are family.

 

[Vince Young]

Whoa.

Óglaigh, since nobody else has said it yet, I will: please get some help. A shrink, a priest, a good friend, a teacher, your parents, whoever. Just don't try to get out of this alone. Trust me on this one.

I'm dead serious. Please talk to someone and get some help. I'm going to be worried until I hear that you've done so.

 

[nayers]

and bro, if you ever need someone to talk to, just im me...i'm young(er) like you, maybe i can help...if not, im a good sounding board

 

[sblxdoc]

Everything will be OK. Everybody goes through difficult times, you just have to fight through them times. Just like the Irish do after the Mich game. Word of advice though, stay away from the beer and pills. It will only make things worse.

You need to post real soon or everybody on this site will become concerned.

 

[irishnd31]

Stay strong Oglaigh. You are young and have a great head on your shoulders. There is some pretty good advice posted above mine. I was you when I was your age. Thought that the girl I was with was a life long partner, and was crushed when things didn't work out. Thought that things would never get better.

There are so many things out there that I would wish everyone would get to experience. The birth of your first born being the greatest of all experiences. There was no feeling quite like seeing my son born and holding him for the first time. At that moment and ever since, nothing else seemed to matter but him and this still holds true to this day.

Stay close to family and friends until hopefully this negative feeling passes. Talk to as many people as you can. Remember that you are loved by so many and that it will get better.

We've never met other than posting on here, but you are a valuable part of this site and I pray that things will work out for you buddy.

 

[Vince Young]

Well, sblxdoc, keep in mind that he wrote that at 10:30pm last night and then drank all his beer. The guy's probably gonna be sleepin' THAT off until noon.

But in all seriousness, I will feel better just seeing him post again, and I'll feel even better if that post is to say that he's getting some help.

 

[irishnd31]

Well, sblxdoc, keep in mind that he wrote that at 10:30pm last night and then drank all his beer. The guy's probably gonna be sleepin' THAT off until noon.

But in all seriousness, I will feel better just seeing him post again, and I'll feel even better if that post is to say that he's getting some help.

Well said Vince. Hope he is alright.

 

[A2McGowan]

A pic of ND's Big East Defender of the Year (soccer) outta cheer you up brutha.


http://www.nd.edu/~cshaner/christielauder.jpg

 

[jiggafini19]

Take it from someone that rode an emotional roller coaster for five years of college:

Nothing is EVER as bad as it seems. And offing yourself is never an option.

You have people who love you and if you're gone, think how they'd feel if you were. I lost a fraternity brother in college who thought that there was nothing good about himself or his life to live for, so he took his own life. Five years prior to that, my first cousin Tim had done the same. He thought that in his darkest hour, he had no one to turn to.

If the two of them could only see us now. And I believe they do see us now. He realizes the error of his decision because he left all of us to mourn him. And I'm done mourning both of them.

I'm telling you, Oglaigh, as someone who has been there. NOTHING is ever as bad as you think of it. I always ask myself, "In a year, is this going to matter?" I have a framed piece of paper in my room that I read every day before I get up. Words to live by from Lou Holtz:

Do What's right.
Always Do Your Best.
Treat others the Way You Wish to be Treated.

WIN= What's Important Now

That's not stupid football shit. Those are words to live by.

You've got a hell of a lot more to see, experience and take in out of life. No one or nothing is ever worth giving that up.

 

[NDAlumSon]

Jesus, Oglaigh.
I was on-site when I read that last night and I thought it was a parody about how ND nation felt after getting trounced by their rival Michigan last Saturday.
I now see that it was serious and I'm sorry I didn't recognize it sooner.
You've gotten great advice from your fellow ND lovers and in that, you should take heart.
They know you only through this cyberspace ether. Think about how much those who actually know and love you, care for your well-being.
Step back from your troubles for a while.
Take a look at them from a distance and with the help of someone who can see them a little more objectively than you might be able to right now. Take your time.
You're a young man with a long way to go in this life.
The fact that you realize that you'll miss the things that give you joy means you're on the right track. Take care and God Bless.
And remember, there's plenty of football, and life, just around the corner.

 

[Bubba]

Oglaigh,

Please, please, please, talk to someone about this in person. We cannot provide the love and care you need over the internet. I know I care about you, but there are people in your life right now that that know you better and care deeply about you that would want to help. If that's not an option, seek help somewhere. Anything you say to a priest/pastor or therapist is confidential information.

Please take this advice from a man who lost his brother 10 years ago to this act. It is devastating to your family. The fact that you realize that you will miss your family gives me hope. Remember, they will miss you, too. Life really is a precious thing. Please don't take it away from yourself and your family.

If you want to talk, feel free to send me a PM. I'll give you my phone number and you can call me or you can give me yours and I'll call you. It doesn't matter. But, please, reach out to SOMEONE. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Mark DeBord

 

[tommy]

he isnt the weird guy on this site life is tough and if you dont have someone it is nearly impossible if you are really fealing that way you really need to tell someone close to you dont keeep them fealings bottled up man

 

[Indydomer]

Im trying to lighten the mood here fellas. I had a few chick problems when I was that young, and the best way to get her back is to bang all of her friends. It works believe me.

On a more serious note. Get some help man. From your posts you seem like a pretty knowledgable and cool guy so don't give up. I aslo have been in a similiar position, and the best people to talk to are your true freinds. The freinds you have known your whole life that know you better than anyone. Be safe my man, you have a lot of time left. Don't give up on that before it has even started.

 

[NDgettysburg]

Yeah, i'm officially the "weird" guy on the site now, lol. But i've had girl-problems like noone would ever know, among other things, that I cannot specify, but let's jkust say that the 60s generation could relate

Didja catch her actually banging another dude.....cause that's what I went through about 16 years ago and it was the worst time in my life. There's nothing worse than seeing the girl you think you're gonna marry, nude, riding another guy. Spent a week in the hospital as a result (didn't do anything to myself....just went into a major depression, no sleep, no food, barely breathing....that sorta thing). Never thought I'd get over it and in some ways I still haven't (major issues with trust and it affects my marriage right up to today). Anyway....I guess the point I'm trying to make is that you can get over chick stuff no matter how much it hurts ya.

Hang in there bro.....you've got a chance at finally seeing a permanent peace in Ireland.

Oh, and can I have your percoset?

 

[jiggafini19]

They ain't worth it, boys. I've got the right girl now and I'm damn lucky, truly blessed. But I'm 28 years old.

You're a young man, Oglaigh. They'll come and they'll go, believe me. The story of the high school sweethearts getting married is both few and far my friend. Women are a dime a dozen. Then you find the one. The sweet ain't as bad without the sour, I can assure you. I might as well be talking to myself when I was your age because I've been there.

Remember the ones who love you and do right by them because they do right by you. And they're always there.

As are we here on the board.

 

[tommy]

just be glad you found out before you got married had kids and settled down jigga never spoke a lie in that last post damn i wish this guy would get on this site damn it at first i didnt know it was girl trouble im so fired up now its not even funny and i dont even know this man look i hate to say it but this wont be the last female that hurts you be strong cusin dont let this chick see you sweat no matter how much it hurts man and ive heard this a million times sitting in your shoes you will get over it man it took me damn near 3 years to get over my ex and she didnt cheat on me and i thought i wouldnt be able to make it with out her and the lessons i learned from that break up and let me tell you it was a nasty one really helped me take a step forward in my life man you will find one that will make you say damn that bitch wasnt even worth all that ndgeetysburge your so right that is a phological ass beating and i feal like that to(major issues with trust and it affects my marriage right up to today).

 

[Óglaigh_na_hÉireann]

Thanks guys, it means a lot. I'll be fine. I'm loads better today.

 

[tommy]

thats great it will get better man take it as a lesson dont t let it break you it sounds crazy but its true you need to go through these things when your young it will help you when your old

 

[irishnd31]

Thanks guys, it means a lot. I'll be fine. I'm loads better today.

Atta boy Oglaigh. Be tough kid. Here if you need anything bud.

 

[grantland]

Thanks guys, it means a lot. I'll be fine. I'm loads better today.

Been busy and I just read this thread. Glad you are feeling better, however, please take everyone's advice and find someone to talk to in person.

This too shall pass.

 

[sblxdoc]

Didja catch her actually banging another dude.....cause that's what I went through about 16 years ago and it was the worst time in my life. There's nothing worse than seeing the girl you think you're gonna marry, nude, riding another guy.

Wow...that is rough.

 

[NDgettysburg]

Thanks guys, it means a lot. I'll be fine. I'm loads better today.

rock on man, good to see you posting.

Wow...that is rough.

you know, it's a fairly common scene in the movies and alot of times you laugh when you see it....but livin' it really kicks you in the ass.

 

[cpprhead59]

hang in there man. like the rest said it will all work out but also do go and find a professional to talk to. i had a little "mental tweaking" that needed to get done a few years ago and prior to that i never thought that stuff worked. well...it did and i am a huge proponent of everyone having some to talk to about things. ..really helps.


i dont post a lot but i do read a lot and enjoy your posts so i had to post something.

 

[iam3r3rd]

I'm on the same boat as cpprhead59 (not posting often). And I too enjoy your posts. I don't think I could give you better advice than what others have. You'll be in my prayers. God bless.

 

[jiggafini19]

Thanks guys, it means a lot. I'll be fine. I'm loads better today.

Good to hear.

Finally, some good news today after a very rough day on all fronts.

I'm about ready to fly overseas, strangle someone to get my product from customs, then fly back with it and drive it up to Detroit myself.

 

[HereComeTheIrish]

Thanks guys, it means a lot. I'll be fine. I'm loads better today.

Great to see you posting again today, kid... Reading post after post and not seeing Oglaigh replying yet, I about had an attack.

I'm glad you're in a better frame of mind today, and from here on out, nothing but a positive frame of mind.

On a side note...Missing the Irish and Charlie is just a small part of the stuff you'd miss.
Let's put in perspective...

You'd of missed "Tommy's" historic journey to 1,000 post quicker than any other man or woman in the history of the internet.

Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: merritt island florida
Posts: 747
Bankroll: $25

Hell, he should be there by the middle of next week. Just kidding, Tommy!!!

Take care of yourself bro...

 

[NDXUFan]

I know that this is a very serious subject. However, think of the situation in this regard, if you pass away, that will be one less subway alum that can drive the Notre Dame haters, insane!!! I have met many Notre Dame haters in my lifetime, including a former resident of South Bend, Indiana. I knew this individual during the years of '88 and '89, to which, I drove him up the wall with Notre Dame. "Jerry" hates Notre Dame with an absolute passion. Just think of the wonderful misery that the Notre Dame haters like Jerry will have when CW starts to win championships, would you want to miss that?


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