I can't blame you for losing confidence at all.
But you are hypocritical in your statements. You don't think ND has the capability to run a winning program, but you support a coach that quite simply, BY HIS OWN DEFINITION AND ADMISSION, didn't get the job done. A coach who had 3 consecutive non-winning regular seasons (despite starting off hot the last 2 seasons). How can you say you're pissed at the firing of a coach who couldn't win with his own players, and then say the people who fired that coach aren't able to run a winning program? If you want a winning program, then you should be happy at the Weis firing/Kelly hiring.
See, you're dead wrong when you say that "by most accounts, ND was on track for a 2010 BCS game". In fact, it's the exact opposite. Go and take a poll on every single ND site, or every college football site, and ask them after the Stanford game if they thought that ND was on their way to a BCS game in 2010. Go ask any college football analyst, and they'll laugh. The team could have been in a BCS game THIS YEAR, and didn't even get close.
Next year w/ Weis, and you've read my posts and know that I am a huge Weis guy, was pointing to being the exact same thing...a mediocre team. He had the veteran offense and talent on defense. We would have lost Clausen next year (he was going pro no matter what...his family had already sold their house, and CW was behind the decision with or without him), possibly Tate, and we would have had to deal with a young QB in a highly complicated offense. And don't even get me started on the defense, which never excelled under him. Nothing tells me next year would have been different. It just didn't work out with Weis, and to keep him would have told me much more about ND than firing him, that's for sure.
The other thing I think you're wrong on is about Kelly not being an ND type of coach. Not sure if you've read up on him, but everything about Kelly SCREAMS Notre Dame. Besides the obvious Irish-Catholic connection, this is his dream job. Unlike other coaches who claim this is their dream job, Kelly isn't scared off by the enormity of the job. In other words, he's not a p***y. He told Swarbrick that he didn't need nor want academic exceptions, that he believed ND can win with student athletes. His Cinci teams had the highest team GPAs in the HISTORY of the program. Out of the 10 BCS teams, Cinci had the highest grad rate, and it wasn't even close. I could go on and on.
Kelly is exactly the type of coach I picture running ND (if he wins of course LOL). This isn't a DickRod type of hiring, where he changes the culture of the program and pisses off everyone while doing it (and blames everyone else when it fails). Kelly gets ND, grew up watching ND, and now has his dream job. Good for him...