Happy Valentine's day today fellas

[IrishinTN]

I agree completely with this in concept, but in action, it has failed me. My wife even agrees with me that the holiday of Valentine's Day is a sham, but that doesn't mean that I get to not get her something. Her friends and family don't necessarily share the same feelings with me, so I am forced to abide regardless.

I even tried buying her a plant one year instead of flowers... it didn't go well.

Well, if you want to get into the brass tax of it, all holidays are fake, cultural creations. I decided to just enjoy it years ago. I love to lavish on my wife, no matter what and on "Valentines", why not even more so. My wife always says "You don't need to do anything." And she genuinely means it, but that doesn't stop her from enjoying the fact that I do.

So, I sent her flowers to brighten her day, then texted her to come home for a special meal (which she assumed was a joke and we were having spaghetti). Instead me and my kids made homemade crab pots with King crab, kielbasa, potatoes, shrimp, clams and lobster. If you think that stuff is easy to find in Tennessee, you're nuts.

Made her day special, and mine too with all three kids helping out. Nothing like asking your 7-year-old to cut up fresh broccoli. Any way, I'm pretty sick right now, too, so I didn't even do it for the "happy ending", but it was a great day any way. Nearly 20 years of marriage and I will always try to take the time to give her a special day. She deserves it for putting up with me.

 

[Bogtrotter07]

OMG there is too much truth in this post for me to handle.

Anniversaries before marriage are necessarily arbitrary and dumb.

You CANNOT not get her a gift unless you are absolutely certain that she won't get you one. I've been burned before, but one thing that has worked for me is to get her to agree in advance that we will both spend the money we would have spent on gifts on an event we participate in together like a ski trip, dinner at the best restaurant in town as opposed to a merely nice one, great tickets to a concert or show as opposed to cheap seats, etc. That curbs her compulsion to buy something to commemorate the occasion.

And the truest truth of all: it's not really your girl that you have to please by giving in to the Valentine's Day/hallmark holiday commercialism, it's her friends and co-workers! Because that is all they are talking about all day today, what all their respective Valentine's plans are. I just wish girls didn't care what their friends think. I mean I don't care what you a-holes think, haha.

UGH it is annoying.

Did you just call us all a-holes?

 

[Bogtrotter07]

This. I took my girl bowling (her idea) then I found this exotic candy tasting at the local conservatory. It was part educational/info and part testing. They dimmed the lights and lit the walkways. Super simple and cheap but she loved it becaues I took the time to look something unique up. Is Valentines a real holiday probably not but without the conservatory would have never put the event on and we would have never went. I also had a box of chocloate covered strawberries sent to her office as a surprise. Got home at the end of the evening went home and made supper. Nothing special just a recipe I found online with some stuff we had at the house. Glass of wine and called it a night.

Next to me, you are the luckiest man alive.

 

[Bogtrotter07]

My wife hates V-Day even more than I do. Thinks it's pathetic at her place of work how woman show-off their relationship when someone gets cookies on a stick. The rest of the year she only hears these same women bitching about the losers they married. She's come close to calling them out on it but always keeps it to herself.
We don't observe V-Day. But to your point...I already got some this morning and like my chances at the "two-fer" tonight.

You are in your early to mid thirties and don't see most people for the superficial pieces of horse shiit they really are.

 

[NDdomer2]

You are in your early to mid thirties and don't see most people for the superficial pieces of horse shiit they really are.

If I am horses **** then can I at least have came from a Clydesdale?

 

[Black Irish]

Ah yes, Valentine's Day. When you show that special lady just how much you care by taking her to an overbooked restaurant, wait 30 minutes for a table, and hope that your over-worked, stressed out server gets your order right, and that the cooks don't burn your food. Romance!

 

[Black Irish]

BTW, for those of you guys who, like me, are lucky enough to not have to do the Hallmark Holiday charade, you will still find yourself grilled by friends and co-workers about how positively awful it is that you don't get the wife/girlfriend a gift. My suggestion for shutting that conversation right down is this. Just say that you will give her the greatest gift of all today. Then motion towards your crotch and wink. Saying "giggity-giggty-goo" while thrusting your hips is optional.

 

[Bogtrotter07]

If I am horses **** then can I at least have came from a Clydesdale?

First off, no one at this site is horse shiit. That is exclusively a reference to people in the civilian world that Brian may encounter. That is why I post here, lack of pussy not withstanding.

 

[Bogtrotter07]

BTW, for those of you guys who, like me, are lucky enough to not have to do the Hallmark Holiday charade, you will still find yourself grilled by friends and co-workers about how positively awful it is that you don't get the wife/girlfriend a gift. My suggestion for shutting that conversation right down is this. Just say that you will give her the greatest gift of all today. Then motion towards your crotch and wink. Saying "giggity-giggty-goo" while thrusting your hips is optional.

Yes as I just said, no one at this site is horse shiit, but there are some truly demented pieces of work that hang out here. lol!

 

[Irish Insanity]

I'm in for the no gift receiving at most, if not all holidays. I am more than willing to give a small gift with meaning randomly thru the year, and on all appropriate holidays. But my girlfriend is like LAXs'. I give some meaningful beads for a bracelet, and I get a several hundred dollar watch. I've just come to accept that I will always be on the short end of the giving. Yes I know gifts with meaning, no matter how minimal, should be greater than a higher expense one, but it still seems to leave me with a feeling of 'coming up short.'